Dating isn't exactly what it used to be when you were in the game, so setting an age when your teenager is allowed to date doesn't necessarily coincide with your own experiences with having a boyfriend. "It seems physically people are maturing younger, but emotionally maturing later," explains Dr. Brenda Schaeffer, psychologist and author of Love or addiction: The power and peril of teen sex and romance. "With adolescence comes raging hormones, peer pressure and media pressure, but teen girls lack the ability to self-parent or to actually problem solve at this age."
Before deciding whether to let your daughter dip a toe in the dating pool, it's important to understand the types of dating options teen girls have.
Group dates. "Group dates to public places like Starbucks or a movie are a very good starter date," advises Mary Waldon, LCSW.
Online dating. "Teens are turning to online relationships feeling they're safer, but they are just as devastated and depressed and rejected," shares Dr. Schaeffer. Discourage your teenager from dating someone online, which still holds the same heartache but also exposes teen girls to online predators.
Exclusive dating. "I have found that young people want to date one person for the safety and security of not having to go along with the crowd," says Dr. Schaeffer. But is she ready for a boyfriend?
So, is there a magic age for all teen girls to start dating her dream boy? Unfortunately not. However, at about 14 or 15 years old, teen girls are often ready to explore relationships in a group setting, but allowing your daughter to exclusively have a boyfriend should wait. "One-on-one dates should probably wait until 16 or even 17, depending on the maturity of the girl, and your assessment of the boy in question," suggests Waldon.
"The thing is, during adolescence, dating is a dress rehearsal for adult relationships," says Dr. Schaeffer. "It's a time when your daughter needs to learn how to enter, be in respectfully, and let go of a relationship. Dating is a part of learning how to survive all of this." Although you may have the urge to forbid your teen girls from having a boyfriend until they are 30 years old, encourage her to try again, regardless of how tough it is for you to see your teenager grow up!
And you'll see personalized content just for you whenever you click the My Feed .
SheKnows is making some changes!