It's tough enough for kids in divorce situations, so keeping things amicable between your ex-mother-in-law and ex-father-in-law for the sake of the kids is key. "Even if a parent struggles with their ex-in-laws, it is necessary and important for them to facilitate opportunities for their own children to know and get close to their grandparents on both sides of the family," advises Dr. Doug Gertner, Ph.D., of thegratefuldad.org. "The gift of grandparents in the lives of children is not to be minimized nor underestimated."
Despite your feelings about your ex-partner post divorce, biting your tongue when talking with your child's grandparents will keep the waters calm. Keep conversation about your kids, the weather or anything besides your children's father to limit resentment and an extremely uncomfortable situation.
Whether a weekend visit or time during the holidays, planning for your kids and your ex-in-laws to spend quality time together will offer support for kids in divorce situations long after your divorce is final. In addition, your children's grandparents also make for a trusted babysitting source, especially when you're a single mom.
Letting grandparents continue to spoil your kids after divorce will allow the relationship your ex's parents had with your kids before things went south between you and your ex. In addition, the financial support comes in handy when you're raising your children on your own.
Especially for kids in divorce, seeking sanctuary in the arms of grandma and grandpa can help minimize the effects of divorce. They may be able to express their feelings to your ex-mother-in-law a little easier than to their mom and dad, so encourage communication between children and grandparents for some safe, free therapy for your kiddos.
When it comes to doing what's best for kids in divorced families, helping your ex-in-laws and your children maintain a relationship will offer them some much needed stability post divorce.
As tough as it may sometimes be, muster up your best smile for your ex-mother-in-law -- you're doing it for your kids.
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