Whether it's interacting with peers, family members, people in the community or your kids, there is much we take for granted -- and definitely shouldn't. Rather than be shocked that others aren't acting or responding in a way you expect, be obvious about what you want and why. State the obvious…because it doesn't go without saying.
What is obvious to you is, of course, obvious. To you. And maybe only you. How a person should respond in a given situation, the potential outcome of an action, how something might make one feel or respond. There are even situations where most of those involved reach the same seemingly obvious conclusion. But there are also outliers in these groups -- those who don't respond in the obvious way, don't make the same logic steps. Those who shock us when we go without saying. It could be little things or it could be big things.
However, everyone has different life experiences. Even siblings who grew up in the same house with the same parents and same rules will have different perspectives and opinions, despite all the shared experiences. And if people from the same household can have misunderstandings, then of course people with different experiences will have different perspectives. And you aren't the only one who is busy and sometimes overwhelmed, who barely has time to stop, much less stop and think.
Because of this, you cannot assume that what is obvious to you is obvious to others. Obviously.
While subtlety is often associated with tact -- and that's a good thing -- there are times when subtlety just doesn't cut it. Sometimes --- and sometimes a lot of the time -- you have to be obvious. If you want something and time is of the essence, if something is important, if consequences are serious, and numerous other situations, forget the subtlety and state the obvious. And when it comes to your kids, some logic is learned -- so teach it. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
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