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Becky Harks of Mommy Wants Vodka is hands-down one of the funniest people on the planet. Looking for the raw, uncensored truth about any subject from motherhood and antenatal depression to vampires and the under-representation of kumquats in today’s social media? She’s your woman. If you are not already one of her loyal minions, you will be by the time you finish reading this interview. We promise.

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becky-harksWhat led you to start blogging?

So way back in 2004, I could sense that the Universe needed to know more about my opinions about such matters as "why kumquats are underrepresented in mainstream society" and "why J is the best letter of the alphabet" and decided that the best way to parlay my thoughts was through self-publishing. Okay, that's a joke.

In 2004, I was a college kid who had one email address that had been set up by a friend and included the words "sex" and "kitten," and I only used the internet box to take surveys that could tell me when I'd be married and what my shoe choice said about my relationship style. My then-boyfriend and I had this conversation:

The Daver: "You should start a blog."

Me (twirling hair, imagining myself riding a unicorn): "Um, did you just insult me?"

The Daver: "No."

Me: "What's a 'blob?'"

The Daver: "An online weblog. It's like an online journal where you can write about things -- like your stalker -- and other people read it."

Me: "Um. Does this have to do with video games? Because I do not play video games."

The Daver: *laughs* "No. I mean, it could, but no, you can write about anything."

Me: "This sounds like a bad idea. I'm never starting a blob, ever."

(A couple months later.)

Me: "So about that 'blob'..."

Tidbits about Becky

How did you pick the name Mommy Wants Vodka?

Despite my initial hesitation, I did begin to blog in 2004, although not under the name Mommy Wants Vodka. My initial blog was a push-the-envelope, in-your-face, snarky, sarcastic blog that I authored with a good friend of mine and gained a small, loyal following among our group of friends and spambots. It was absolutely unlike anything I'd seen before.

In 2007, after my second son was born, I realized that while I loved to write (considering I was a very science-driven person, this was a huge thing to admit), I need a space to talk about the other parts of my life too. I couldn't just write about the slap-stick, hilarious bits, because life, well, life isn't always funny, and I needed to find people who understood where I was in my life.

At the time, when I started Mommy Wants Vodka, the only Mommy Blogs I'd found were sugary-sweet, soft-lensed tributes to parenthood in all it's rosy glory. I had an autistic kid and a newborn with colic. I hadn't slept through the night in years. I loved my children, but life was not always rosy.

The name "Mommy Wants Vodka" was an homage to a life that I loved but a life that was neither rosy nor perfect.

How did you get the nickname Aunt Becky?

When I'd started Mommy Wants Vodka, I'd planned to have different tones; different characters in my blog. I even had a couple picked out. "Smoove B," "Becky from the Block," "Aunt Becky," and "Becky, In Real Life," who were all me, of course, but I figured I'd mix it up and change around the way the posts read. Just for kicks.

Oddly, the one that stuck around and the one that people began to refer to me as was "Aunt Becky." So I figured, why not run with it? I'm not an aunt in real life, so I may as well play one on the Internet, right?

>> Keep reading to learn more about Aunt Becky

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Comments on "Meet Becky Harks of Mommy Wants Vodka"

Face Slap August 25, 2012 | 12:00 AM

There is not a Republican war against women. Rather, there is a womens' war against women, as these comments prove. Likewise, there is not a white war against blacks. Rather, there is a black war against blacks. The issue is one of culture. Blaming an outside group is how one deals with the discomfort of belonging to a defective culture and lacking the courage to address the defects. At least some here have courage. Good on them.

Susan August 02, 2012 | 11:18 PM

You people are SO PETTY. the woman isn't funny at all, but who cares what she calls her blog?! and the people being the worst toward her are OTHER WOMEN. you're disgusting, selfish, es.

Terri July 29, 2012 | 2:06 AM

Sheesh, ease up ppl...its just a blog. I seriously doubt she titled it "mommy wants vodka" with the intention of advocating moms across the nation start swilling back the hooch. I say this also as the daughter of a raging alcoholic father, daddy wanted his vodka, which eventually led to my mommy shooting his sorry ass. But I never was offended by the blog title. Dont go there, if it seems offensive to you, but cripes lighten up. Woman on woman negativity thrives, it's why we are still living in the Dark Ages is so many ways and why women STILL have to fight tooth and nail to get anywhere.

Brandi December 14, 2011 | 12:57 PM

"I faked having a baby on twitter and it was awesome" okay...maybe if she did something cool like make awesome pot baked goods like Nancy Botwin I'd want to read her blog more :P

Pamela August 24, 2011 | 5:11 PM

Interesting title. I hope it doesn't offend too many other people. My mommy loved and wanted, and got her vodka. She drank vodka everyday until one day her liver couldn't handle it anymore. Then, Mommy developed Cirrhosis of the liver and 2 weeks before my weddding my mommy died, and we didn't have any vodka at that wedding! It's just when I see that title alot of things go through my mind. I intellectually know this is someone else's blog, but the title runs deep........

uncleBecky August 23, 2011 | 11:45 PM

four million hits a month? yeah right.

Ewokmama August 19, 2011 | 1:54 PM

Fantastic piece on the Beckster! Woot!

The Animated Woman August 19, 2011 | 6:36 AM

Faking having a baby on twitter is amazing! Was it a boy or a girl?

Catherine August 18, 2011 | 11:44 AM

She is great, so nice to see her recognized. Now no longer a secret! So nice to see and hear the thoughts I thought I could only keep in my head. Honest humour, more people need to look at life this way. Makes raising kids and being a family an adventure!

Harknell August 18, 2011 | 7:31 AM

Becky is awesome, and we're very happy to have her as a guest at our event this year: Intervention 2011 (http://www.interventioncon) on September 16-18 2011. So come and see her in person.

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