Lori Hogan, co-founder of Home Instead Senior Care, has extensive experience guiding people through "tough talks" with aging parents. Her advice may help you navigate these sometimes difficult waters responsibly and with sensitivity.
The aging process can be sneaky. One day, your parents seem vibrant and young -- and the next, you notice some subtle but alarming signs of declining health. What do you do?
"It's best to talk with aging parents sooner rather than later when an issue has reached crisis proportions," says Hogan. "The Home Instead Senior Care organization developed a public education program several years ago called the 40-70 Rule, the idea being that if you're 40 and your parent is 70, it's time to start talking about these sensitive issues that affect so many families. But it's never too late to begin an important conversation."
Caring for aging parents is a bit of a role reversal, making the tough conversation even tougher. "Nearly one-third of adults in the U.S. have a major communication obstacle with their parents that stems from continuation of the parent-child role," says Hogan.
"It can be difficult to get the conversation going because the child is still in a child rather than adult role with their parent. Mom and Dad still view that adult child as a kid. Because of obstacles such as this, adult children may wait until an emergency or crisis happens before talking to parents. Seniors also may avoid talking about those topics that they feel will threaten their independence and their ability to stay at home."
Hogan provides the following tips on approach this tough talk with your parents:
For more information on having the tough talk, visit: www.4070talk.com.
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