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Babies and children who have been in orphanages often have Sensory Processing Disorders. Our son did, although we didn't even realize the extent of it until he had been home for a month or two. Because of this, I suggest skipping big Christmas parties or holiday celebrations, where many people, music, lights and stimulation can overwhelm for your child. Even if he doesn't have a Sensory processing disorder, his body and brain may not be adjusted enough to handle too much excitement.
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Think about your child's previous environment and his new one. If he was in an orphanage, he likely wasn't exposed to the hustle and bustle associated with your holidays. Do your best to remain in calm surroundings. Even a crowded shopping mall can be overwhelming.
If you're adopting domestically, use common sense when deciding whether to attend parties – is the environment one where a newborn belongs? Remember, adopting at Christmas means that this holiday will be different, but next year, you'll be back in the swing of things. Plus, this kind of different is good!
Many adoption experts recommend you minimize having everyone under the sun hold and snuggle with your newly adopted infant or toddler shortly after he joins your family. The attachment process can be a long journey and many feel it's best to start out with clear messages to your child about who his new parents to help him bond to you. However, if you're adopting at Christmas, you will likely attend family gatherings more than you would at other times of the year. Of course, this means that a lot of people probably want to hold your child.
First, decide what you're comfortable with and what works best for your family. If you determine that having others hold your child in the first few weeks, when there is already a lot of confusion and chaos, isn't a big deal, then you don't have to worry.
However, if you prefer to minimize the number of people who hold your baby, you can gently explain your views on attachment parenting and adoption to your family. You can also wear your baby or toddler in a sling or carrier, which makes other less likely to ask or expect to hold him. Babywearing is more than an attachment parenting principle in this case!
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Just remember that adopting at Christmas is like adopting at any other time of the year for one reason -- you have wanted this child to join your family. The timing might mean more stress, but don't let it interfere with the early weeks you spend with your child.