Gift Overload -
Plain and simple: the holidays are not all about gifts, things, tangible items, toys, consumerism…call it what you want, the point is the same. Remember the reason for the season. Whether your family's reason is religion, connectedness, memories or kindness, don't forget -- the holidays are not about giving or receiving too many gifts. Keep the holidays simple with presents!
Start making the holidays about endless gifts when your kids are young and you're setting yourself up for years of expectations. You don't want to feel like you need to match -- or worse, outdo -- last year's gift giving, nor do you want your kids desire – or worse, think they deserve – more and more gifts each year. Do yourself and your kids a favor and don't buy too many gifts.
You don't measure your love for your child by the number of boxes wrapped under the tree or gifts presented each day of Hanukkah, and you know that. Still, when you're shopping for your kids, it's easy to think "Oh, she'll love this! It will make her so happy!" as you imagine the joy on your daughter's face as she unwraps yet another "special" toy.
No doubt, the gift will bring her joy, but so will being with her family, sharing memories and cuddling on the couch with a cup of hot chocolate. Gifts make our kids feel good at that moment, and they probably even make them feel gratitude -- and love -- toward us for giving them, but gifts don't replace, or serve as a form of, love.
As crazy as might seem, it's possible to overwhelm a child with too many gifts! Young children are especially likely to feel overwhelmed by too many gifts, but so can older kids. This is one of those times where quality, not quantity, matters.
As you're finishing up your holiday shopping, remember what the holidays mean to you. Strive to impart that meaning onto your children, and remember that you can't accomplish that by giving them too many gifts.