Mother Eschews Gender Roles
Mommyblogger Sarah faced harsh criticism from fellow mothers for allowing her son to wear a traditionally female costume for Halloween. Her blog on the issue ignited a debate on gender roles in society. What side are you on?
It all started a few weeks ago over a Halloween costume discussion.
A Kansas City-area mother asked her son what he wanted to be for Halloween. Her son, affectionately called Boo, said he wanted to be Daphne from Scooby Doo. He's been a huge fan most of his life and was the crime-fighting cartoon for Halloween a couple of years ago.
5 year-old boy Daphne
At first the mother, only identified as Sarah, wasn't sure about his decision. Her hesitation wasn't so much of his choice of costume, but that he might change his mind. He didn't, so she made the purchase.
Fast forward to a few days before Halloween. Sarah's son started to complain about his costume because he was afraid people would make fun of him for dressing like a girl. She blew it off, she said, because she didn't think anyone would laugh at a kid in a costume.
She was wrong.
She took him to school for his Halloween party dressed in his Daphne costume and he didn't want to get out of the car, worried that people would make fun of him. She again reassured her son that no one would make fun of him and they went inside.
It wasn't the kids that had the problem with Boo's costume; it was their mothers. Various mothers made comments to Sarah, ranging from questions about the choice of costume to condemning the mother for allowing to dress in a girl's costume because it might "turn him gay."
Sarah was angry -- very angry. So she vented on her personal blog, Nerdy Apple Bottom.
The blog touched a nerve with parents around the country, on both sides of the issue. The post has attracted almost 300 comments and media across the country.
This subject has struck a nerve, likely due to increasing problem of bullying and cyberbullying across the country. A recent study showed that 23 percent of elementary school-aged children have been bullied at some point and an astounding 77 percent have been bullied at some point during their lives.
It also shows that bullies are likely learning discrimination from their parents, judging the mothers' reactions to Boo's Daphne Costume.
No matter what you believe, you can't argue that we live in a diverse society with people of all races, sexual orientations and personalities. Tolerance has to start somewhere, and it should start at home.
Or, as Sarah said so gracefully on her blog:
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