Following through with appropriate, pre-determined consequences is a must, because these high-spirited children are often more perceptive. Being consistent with consequences will also teach her that she is responsible for the choices that she makes.
Sometimes, difficult children yearn for attention of any kind, even when it is negative. But, it's important to offer your persistent child the kind of attention that will mold her behavior in the future, which means showering her with attention when she makes good choices and cutting down on the draining negative attention.
Whether it is entering a new situation or trying to express a desire she has, show your kiddo some compassion for what she's feeling. "Empathy does not mean you have to like the behavior, condone the behavior, but you can respect that this is the best the child can do at this moment," says Dr. Joseph Shrand, Instructor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, Assistant Child Psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital, and Medical Director of CASTLE (Clean and Sober Teens Living Empowered), in Brockton, Massachusetts. "Parents can set limits, enforce rules, but still have our children feel valuable, capable, safe, and encouraged to reach their unlimited potential."
Feeling like you have hit a road block in your ability to parent your difficult child? Do not be afraid to seek help. A professional may be able to give you the tips and tools you need to tailor your parenting style and manage your child's energetic, highly sensitive, stubborn or distractible traits and uncover the loveable, unique individual waiting to be understood.