Bottle Feeding Blues

Even formula companies will now admit that “breast is best.” But moms who struggle to breastfeed can feel enormous guilt. And the breastfeeding militants can make you feel like you might as well feed your infant liquid crack if you choose to use formula. What is the truth? Are there any legitimate reasons to bottle feed your baby?

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Breastfeeding challenges

Despite what the breastfeeding militants will tell you, there are more than three percent of women who struggle with legitimate nursing difficulties. Latch problems, tongue-tie, inverted nipples, low milk supply, mastitis and thrush are just a few of the most common difficulties. Additionally, as mothers in our country are emerging out of a formula-feeding era, finding breastfeeding guidance and support is not always easy.

How to get the best breastfeeding support

If you are dealing with one of the challenges mentioned above — or some other breastfeeding complication — the best support is found with an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). Although your mom or best friend might have some helpful tips to share, don't rely on their advice alone when you are dealing with serious nursing challenges. If you don't know how to find an IBCLC in your area, contact your local chapter of the La Leche League and they will be happy to help.

What to do when you can't solve your nursing challenges

Before I was a mom, it had never occurred to me that breastfeeding would be anything but natural and easy. But it wasn't. I had always planned to breastfeed my children and I was shocked when I encountered so many difficulties — clogged ducts, recurrent mastitis, thrush, latch problems and a son with ankyloglossia (tongue-tie). With the expert guidance of a very skilled IBCLC, we were able to overcome many challenges with my firstborn son. But despite surgery and many kinds of therapy, my tongue-tied second son could not nurse. Gratefully, I already owned a double electric breast pump and so I began to express milk immediately. However, not everyone has a lifestyle that is conducive to pumping every three hours around the clock.

Lose the guilt

In cases like these, it is important to remember that nothing in motherhood is perfect. We all do the best we can for our children. If you want to nurse, but have found yourself with a challenge that is insurmountable, even with the help a skilled lactation consultant, do not buy into the mommy guilt time-share. Situations like these are exactly what formula was designed for. Not to mention, the quality of infant formula has improved dramatically in recent years with the addition of DHA and ARA, as well as organic formulas in both cow's milk and soy varieties. Seek the guidance of your pediatrician and choose a formula that is best for your baby's particular dietary needs. Rest assured, your baby will still grow up healthy and strong with a loving and concerned parent like you.

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Comments on "The breast-is-best debate"

A Modern Military Mother October 24, 2010 | 1:35 PM

It can be tough and it's worth but you have to really want to do it. This will help women believe in the battle. Brilliant!

Alysia October 21, 2010 | 3:20 AM

thanks for the great article! With each kid it was a debate in my head, since each one of mind had trouble at first and they weren't gaining weight. Thanks for putting all sides out there - we should support moms in their decisions, not tear them down, especially at their most vulnerable time!

mayra October 20, 2010 | 8:09 AM

I voted, Naomi! Thnaks for the interesting article!

Heather October 19, 2010 | 12:43 AM

Super article, calm, rational and none judgemental - if only all breast feeding articles were more like.

Steve October 16, 2010 | 5:08 AM

Speaking as a father, I applaud your calm, balanced, informative approach - and my wife appreciated it too! ;-)

Very Bored in Catalunya October 16, 2010 | 4:40 AM

Naomi, this is a brilliant article. If only everyone would choose to spread the breastfeeding word like this, I am sure it would increase breast feeding take-ups hugely. Thank you for such an important and unbiased article.

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