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Teaching responsibility

Laura Willard is a law school grad who has successfully avoided using her education for eight years and counting. She's a wife and an adoptive mom to two kids who, without a doubt, the cutest kids ever. Motherhood is the best job she nev...

How to raise accountable kids

As an adult, you know accountability is a huge part of life. What you may not realize is that you are teaching your little one responsibility and accountability every day, through both your actions and expectations.
Raising responsible children
Family doing chores together

Want to make sure you’re fulfilling your responsibility to your kids? Pay attention to your everyday actions and behaviors.

It's so much easier to run around at the end of the day and pick up all of the toys that make your house appear more like a daycare center than a home. Motivating toddlers and preschoolers to actually put the toys away instead of playing with them is exhausting, especially when you still have to clean up dinner, get them ready for bed and then tackle all the work you couldn't complete during the day. While giving your kids a free pass once in a while isn't a big deal, taking the easy route too often will cost you — and them — later.

Start young

Jenn Berman, Ph.D., author of Superbaby: 12 Ways to Give your Child a Head Start in the First 3 Years, suggests that if your child is capable of doing something on her own, you guide her to do it instead of doing it for her.

Sounds simple, right? And it's probably even common sense. But stop and think about how often we just grab the plate off the table and put it in the sink because it takes so much less time. Instead, tell your toddler how much it helps Mommy when he puts his dirty dish in the sink (or on the counter — whatever he can reach). Not only is he learning to clean up after himself, he'll also feel good about helping.

Offer choices

If your toddler or preschooler is knee-deep in the "no" phase, asking, "Will you help Mommy put your toys away" probably isn't going to illicit an enthusiastic, "Yes!" Instead, Dr. Jenn suggests you offer a choice: "Do you want to put your stuffed animal back in your room or do you want to clean up your blocks?" She says that choices give children power, and it's important to give them as much power as possible.

Work on manners

Don't overlook the importance of manners. Dr. Jenn reminds parents that manners are a very strong form of accountability — one that children initially learn by mimicking your behavior.

Learn how to teach your toddler manners >>

Don't quit!

As your little one gets older and life gets even busier, don't forget that instilling responsibility is your job throughout their childhood and their teen years. A good foundation will last a lifetime.

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