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7 Tips for teaching your child responsibility

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Raise responsible, independent kids

Looking for a way to teach children responsibility? The best lessons can be taught right at home. Whether you’re a reformed “helicopter parent” or are ready for your sweetie pie to get on the road to responsibility, check out these 7 tips for teaching your child responsibility.

mother and daughter doing dishes

number one

ASSIGN some accountability

Age-appropriate chores are a simple way to teach your child responsibility. Add in a little financial incentive and your darling will begin learning how to manage finanaces, too.

number two

Let her make decisions

Letting your child make some of her own choices will teach her accountability and help her to gain independence. Younger children should be offered limited

options, but give her the chance to choose from them.

number three

Foster independence

The only way to master any skill is through practice. By letting her tackle age-appropriate tasks, like getting herself dressed, she will also become more self-reliant.

four

Set a good example

Taking your own responsibilities seriously sets a good example for your kiddo's watchful eyes. "Whether we promote it or not, children always learn by example", says Thomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Keeping your promises or being on time are ways you can lead by example.

five

Pick up a book

Stories pack a lot of punch, so when it comes to reading time, select books that illustrate responsibility. Interesting characters and situations she can identify with will hold her attention. Even better, she won't tune you out because she isn't being lectured!

six

Talk HER through difficult situations

Although your first instinct is to direct and protect your adolescent, instead of automatically telling her what she should do, guide her through the process of coming to a conclusion on her own. Ask questions and encourage her to think it through with your support.

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"I know that I make them accountable for their actions and I also use the word consequence rather than punishment", says luvmy2girls11.

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seven

Show them the bigger picture

The ultimate goal is for your sweetheart act responsibly because she wants to, not just because she's told to. Explaining to your child how doing her part is helping the family as a whole can sometimes help young children understand how their actions affect others.

Teaching your child responsibility helps build character and makes her a more independent, self-reliant person. As she grows, remember to let her responsibilities evolve. Finally, don't forget to give her plenty for praise for a job well done!

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