A Brand New
Family

I knew for many, many years that I wanted to be a mom someday. When I was a teen, I remember drawing the floor plan of the house I would have someday - penciling in the rooms and the names of the 13 children I would have. When I was in college, my aunt adopted her first child from Honduras. I remember meeting them at the airport and the early days of watching this new addition to our family. That same aunt adopted again from China five years later and so the idea of adopting as a single person was always something I knew would be an option for me as well. I did not have a particular timeframe in mind, but I knew that it was something I was very interested in doing “some day.”

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New mom

Waiting turns to hope

The evening of January 3, 2008, will forever be etched into my memory. The phone rang rather late in the evening and it was the new agency's area code. I picked up the call and I was told that I was accepted by them…and guess what? There was a situation they wanted to tell me about. The situation was very fluid with things changing rapidly. I kept the phone by my side constantly and over the course of the next week I rushed to get the pieces in place, started shopping for newborn gear and products, researching airfare and hotels in the area I might be heading to, trying to settle on baby names (I had opened up to either a boy or girl so I figured I'd better work on girl names!) and so on.

The following Friday, January 11th, I was simply waiting for an update from the agency, knowing that there would be new information for me. My social worker called, filled me in on a lot of new information, and told me that, by the way, the expectant mother was checked into the hospital and the baby would be delivered that day! By afternoon, I was told that I needed to be on a plane that evening.

Three hours later, I was on the way to the airport, an hour after that I got a call that the expectant mom was about ready to push, and then I had to board the plane and turn off my cell phone. A few hours later I landed and rec'd the message, "Call us!" I returned the call to hear, "It's a girl!"

Meeting the birth mom and baby Delaney

DelaneyThat night I had the opportunity to meet this wonderful young lady who had just given birth to this baby. I got to hear from her about her life and about her choice to place for adoption, and we spent the next couple of hours getting to know one another.

The next afternoon I walked into the nursery area of the hospital, sat in a rocking chair, and held the tiny baby girl who would soon become my daughter. Amidst the hustle and bustle of the busy room, I sat gazing at this little bundle (5 lbs. 10 oz.) and cried tears of joy.

The next three days were spent snuggling this beautiful little girl for hours a day as I waited for the process to move along. On her fourth day of life, all of the paperwork was signed and I was officially the adoptive mama of a beautiful baby girl I named Delaney Annabelle. I drove to the hotel in a state of shock -- the hospital actually just lets you buckle that little car seat into the base and drive off! I worried as she cried her tiny little cries in the seat, then I worried as she stopped crying.

I'm a mom!

Delaney and I flew home when she was nine days old and began our life together. I could not stop gazing at her in awe that she was my daughter then, and I cannot stop now. This little girl has been such an amazing gift in my life. She is spunky, smart, silly, loving, spirited and the love of my life. I have been more tired than I could have ever imagined, but have also never laughed with such pure love and joy.

Many say that adoption is not for the faint of heart and that is true. Adoption is a complicated, sometimes heart-breaking journey paved with many ups and downs. While the journey was challenging, I am grateful for the friendships I developed along the way and for the amazing little girl that I now get to call my daughter.

Special thanks to Stacy for sharing her touching story with us!

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Comments on "My adoption story: Single mom Stacy adopts Delaney"

Patricia King February 18, 2014 | 11:03 AM

Beautiful story!!! I just recently began the process of researching adoption agencies for single parent adoption and was wondering if anyone could recommend a good, solid agency(s) to use.

Ri January 28, 2014 | 12:18 PM

Stacy this story like many adoption stories almost brought me to tears because its so heart warming-the love you have to give that adorable little girl along with the chance your giving her for a better life by being her mommy is beautiful and i honestly commend you for that! it makes you an every day hero in my eyes shes so lucky to have you and im sure you feel the same. As a young woman i know i could easily go and get knocked up and have a baby of my own but to know there are so many babies in this world in need of a loving home makes me believe that is a somewhat selfish route to take, your story is inspiring God bless you and your beautiful angel xo

Keisha August 15, 2013 | 5:11 AM

Oh, this Is a beautiful story! I just recently began researching single parent adoption. I'm young, but I know that it is a long and arduous process...I too am interested in domestic adoption! Congrats mama and thank you for sharing your story!

amanda July 31, 2013 | 5:20 PM

thank you for sharing your amazing story! as a mid 30-something, professional single woman....who wants nothing more than to be a mommy....your adoption journey has been so inspiring. I made the decision to become a single mother by choice last summer, and through all of the fertility work up, discovered that I am not able to have any biologic children. devastating doesn't even come close to how I felt at that time. adoption wasn't even on my radar, because I wanted to experience pregnancy as well. I truly believe that God leads our hearts where He feels we are most needed, and adoption is seemingly the place for me :) again, thank you so much for sharing your story....it's really solidified the concept of adoption for me and how important it is to be able to provide so much love to such a sweet little life!!

Corrine June 26, 2013 | 8:18 PM

Stacy, Thanks, I have my first meeting with an agency tomorrow. I'm nervous and excited. After so many years waiting for the 'husband' piece of the equation, I've finally determined that I don't need a husband to fulfill my dreams (though it would be nice), but I definitely need a child (and hopefully children someday). I'm thrilled and deciding between adoption and foster-to-adopt domestically. I don't make a ton of money so the cost of daycare is daunting, but I know I can make my dream come true. You are an inspiration!

Kristen August 28, 2012 | 11:14 AM

Thank you for this beautiful story. I am in the midst of the home study and am cautiously optimistic that I will soon be a single, mommy, too!

lily July 05, 2012 | 7:48 PM

I am only 23 since I was little I have always consider adoption and reading these stories makes me want to even more but first have to work om me first thank u so much

Kelly Ozley August 09, 2010 | 7:42 PM

Loved your story and I can totally relate. I adopted two girls from Moldova (just completed #2 5/6/10). Best part of my life. Really happy and proud for you. I blogged on my experience if you are interested. Moldova (their country) is not well known - but really lovely people. Best to you.

Tina July 13, 2010 | 9:50 PM

Love your story. I too am a single mom to a adorable son I adopted at birth. The wait can be long, but it is worth it!

Shawna July 10, 2010 | 8:00 PM

Amazing story from an amazing mom!!

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