Not-So-Cute
Baby Talk

In the course of language acquisition and communication development, many kids come up with quirky sayings and pronunciations unique to them. It's adorable -- so sometimes, those cute quirks persist long past the time that age-appropriate speech is your child's standard. But even with those certain cute quirks, sometimes kids start intentionally talking like someone younger than they are. What's a mom supposed to do about that kind of regression? Is baby talk even a regression -- or something else?

Mom talking to toddler

Baby talk can be cute when you baby is first figuring out how to sound out words --  but not so much in an older child. It can be downright grating and annoying but many kids use it far beyond the baby years for a variety of reasons. Often it's less a regression than an indication of emotional advancement; they have chosen to use something specific to their advantage.

Attention

When a child who is more than capable of age-appropriate communication begins to talk intentionally like a baby again, she clearly is trying to draw attention to herself. Baby talk -- for kids as well as adults -- is associated with cuteness and positive attention, and the child has made that connection: If I talk like a baby, I'll get the kind of positive attention I want.

Is it really a regression?

If your child is choosing to talk like a baby, probably not. If your child is suddenly unable to speak and communicate in the way he was able to before, then that is a true regression, and likely requires some input from a medical care provider to figure out what is going on. Early intervention for any regression increases (but does not guarantee) a chance at returning to the forward developmental path. Bring any concerns up to your child's pediatrician and other medical care providers.

Changes and anxieties

Sometimes, a child who decides to use baby talk is experiencing some change or stress that makes him crave the kind of attention a baby gets. Kids experience stress just as grownups do. How they manifest it, though, can vary significantly among children. While some kids act out and get angry, some take steps to "go back" to a time they perceive as safer and easier.

Communication

Ironically, one way you can sort the issue out is through more grownup-style communication. Talk to your child directly about issues and changes that may be bothering her -- they might not be obvious! -- and offer lots of reassurance that you'll be there to help her along. In addition, let your child know that, although baby talk was cute when she was baby, it's not so cute now, and one great thing about getting a little older is her ability to communicate better.

Even though the baby talk may be annoying, putting a positive spin on age-appropriate speech and communication may get you further than snap reactions.

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Comments on "Why is your child still using baby talk?"

Kathy C November 09, 2013 | 8:36 PM

Sorry, I am Catholic too and have been for 64 years and was a Catholic School teacher. I have never heard of a white baptismal diaper and think it is abusive to put a diaper on a 14 year old young lady unless she has some medical condition requiring such. If some sicko priest told you this was required he should be reported. Seek help.

marjory August 15, 2013 | 9:47 AM

WE are catholic and finially baptized our 14 year old daughter last month after it beinng put off since she was born.For her baptism,we dressed her in the traditional white just below the knees baptism gown with a matching bonnet,lace anklets and white mary janes.Under the gown we did the standard white cloth baptismal diaper,adult rubber pants and white tee shirt.She took a pacifier from the nursery and was sucking on it most of the time.At her party,she was talking 'baby talk' and we could hardly understand her even tho we told her not to talk that way.she said that since she was a baby,that she would talk how ever she wanted too.most of the people at her party thought it was cute,but we didnt like it.she did it again when she made her first communion two weeks later and had to wear the diaper and rubberpants again under her communion dress.

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