3 Couples Discuss Their Decision
Ruth and Joe Bodycott had lived in Pitman, N.J., most of their adult lives. When their son-in-law, Scott Hornung, and their daughter, Janyne, decided to purchase a home just outside Pitman, they invited the Bodycotts to join them in living there.
A year later, their granddaughter, Mikaela, was born.
After sharing the home for seven years, Hornung made an announcement. He was being transferred to a different state. Before the Bodycotts could react, their son-in-law asked, "Why don't you come with us?" It was a simple question... with a complex answer.
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Going Often, Hosting Often
Whether to relocate from Highland Ranch, Colo. to Lawrenceville, Ga., where their 2-year-old granddaughter was living, was a tough decision for Ronda and Brian Olson. Ultimately, the Olsons (both extremely active in their community) decided that Colorado was a home they could not leave.
So they visit with their granddaughter once a month, paying for airfare out-of-pocket. Some months, they fly to Atlanta. Other months, they help their adult children buy plane tickets to Colorado. "Yes, there's a high cost involved," says 58-year-old Brian. "But maintaining the strong emotional bond our granddaughter has with her 'Papa' and 'Mama' is priceless."
Considering moving to be closer to your grandchild? Before putting the house on the market, Susan Newman, Ph.D., a social psychologist and author of 13 nonfiction books about issues affecting family life, suggests first going through this list of questions. "Having your grandchildren move away is hard," says Dr. Newman. "Giving up the life you know can be hard, too."
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