Your 3-year-old: Development, behavior and parenting tips

@posh- The idea that boys have to like trucks and blue and girls have to like dolls and pink is something completely dictated by the society we live in. "A social construction is something that doesn't exist independently in the "natural" world, but is instead an invention of society. Cultural practices and norms give rise to the existence of social constructs and govern the practices, customs, and rules concerning the way we use/view/understand them. In other words, we all act as if they exist, and because of our intersubjective agreement, they do." Does it matter to you what other people will say when they see him in a pink shirt? Does it matter to you if he wants to wear a tutu and a crown instead of a firefighter suit when he dresses up? It shouldn't, in my opinion. Let him be free to express himself in any way he chooses, as long as its a safe outlet. If you are afraid this is going to lead to him identifying as a female later down the line(which is a possibility but most likely he's just trying to say he likes pink! A color isn't inherently girl-like or boy-like...don't overthink it), oppressing him now is just going to make him more confused as he grows up and most likely alienate him from talking to you about such things years down the road.

Help needed...my 3 yr old grand daughter is a sweet lil girl at times but she can turn like a dime and be a horrible lil person. She cant speak but only a few one sillable words. she whispers like a conversation to herself or a picture in her own mumble like language. she throws herself hard on the floor or runs hard into a wall not really feeling or caring of any pain she may get? We dont know what to pinpoint this behavior to. My daughter in-law was so worried when she gave birth to this child because of her alcohol or drug use. It was not a very good time for her pregnancy. The biological father is out of the picture from the time he found out about the baby. My son has stayed and married her and is raising my grand daughter as his own. What can we do to help this lil girl with her behavior and will she be able to mainstream in school?

I have a 3yrs old son whom i love to bit,he somthimes behaves like a gal and preferes things in a pink ,is this a normal behavour or should i be wooried that he seems likes being the opposite .

i have a 3 year old (his birthday was yesterday). he has not developed any language skills besides a 10 word vocabulary and rarely uses his voice to communicate. On the other hand i have seen he is able to do a lot more things than communicate. he understands what he is told to do and he knows how to get exactly what he wants on his own. He is very independent. he feeds, cleans and enjoys himself. he has grasped how to use the computer for his entertainment and game consoles like the ps3 and the wii are his favorites . He watches and plays on them the entire day he can search for specific movies and games that he wants to see and knows the function of the buttons and exactly what they do. Is this normal behaviour? even in the video games he knows what he has to do.

I have a 3 and a half year old granddaughter who has become very aggressive. She has hit a 4 year old cousin for no reason like a guy punch, slam a piano lid down on her 11 year old girl cousin. She is not around them very much and the 4 yr old is very quite sweet little boy and the old one is patient and nice with her. She is throwing fits and hits her 11 yr old brother who is not one who picks at her. They have tried spanking her on the bottom and seems to help calm down at the time but she will do it again. When I have told her no she will look at me and scatch my hand as she looks at me in a ugly way. What has happen to this little girl. Could to much sugar have this kind of effect and what is the best approach to turning this around. My son is worried and not sure what to do that is the best way to handle it. HElp soon to get this under control as quick as they can.

hi ive recently gained a residence order of my 3 year old grandson with court orders that he goes to see his birth mother twice a week at the start everything was ok he,d go with his mum but recently he wont go he crys and gets really distressed and wont go with her anyone got any ideas to what I can do im at my wits end I hate having to leave him crying

I have a 3 yr old who is very smart. Smarter than my son at the same age and very imaginative. Her best friends are her stuffed animals and me when I haven't made her mad for not giving her something. She doesn't like loud sounds but she is very loud. Lol she still can go into fit mode when she doesn't feel like she is in control but I get through it with patience and prayer. What I have realized is that kids go through stages just like Frued predicted even though I am not to fawn of him. When my son wasn't progressing in speech like he should have been I needed help. Know that if you alone can't handle it that there is help out there. There beginning is so important that it takes Grandma, grandpa, teachers, pastors, close friends, family, other children and the rest of the world to help raise a child. Social skills, independence, language skills, motor skills and so much more help lead our children to self actualization when they grow up and sometimes it does takes an Army and a whole lot of patience. Our kids are not perfect and sometimes we can get jealous when someone's else's child is behaving better than our owns. There is so much that you can do as a parent until you realize that maybe my child needs more than me to raise him or her. I say don't be afraid to seek help, dont be afraid to lean on family, don't be quick to let someone diagnose your child with a disorder, don't be quick to lay a hand and don't forget about God for those that are religious. I am still learning myself and have to take a deep breath a lot but I also have a lot of love for my baby or toddler or sometimes think she is grown woman child. Lol I also give lots of hugs cause they usually help when I get frustrated. I had to stop writing about 3 times cause I had to give her peanut butter on a spoon, help her with the clock on ABC mouse, turn the tv down cause it was too loud, help her build a pillow castle and more. Lol Sometimes we just got to smile our way through it.

Grace I had to read ur comment twice as I could NOT believe you said you are severely beating your child so I think yes you do need help not so much for your sons learning but for your anger management... This would be a start if you let your health advisor know about this As its obvious to me you both need help..one more beat to your poor son could go to far! I also have a 3 yr old son but god forbid me if I ever thought of hitting him x

What the heck grace, why would you beat your kid severely? I can't believe you would write that!

We have a 3yr old daughter that will not listen at all. She runs away in public wherever we go. She always talks back, cops an attitude over everything, tells us she doesn't loves us and hurts the dog. No matter what punishment she gets, it doesn't matter. She acknowledges what she has done wrong and then continues to do it again but worse...it makes no sense?!?! We are out of options and wife is past her wits end.....what do we do? We need help!!!!