It's a sad reality that at some point, your child will be left out of a gathering of other kids. Whether it's a birthday party or just a game on the playground, every kid I know - and every adult who was once a kid - has been left out at one time or another. It's an awful feeling.
When it happens to our kids, our first instinct may be that inner feral mamma-bear response of, "How dare they!" But that response doesn't help the situation. It doesn't turn back time, it doesn't help your child deal with the hard feelings - and it doesn't make the excluders want to include.
Hurt is hurt
No matter how it happens, whether intentionally or unintentionally, being excluded hurts. It may be because there were only so many a child could invite to a birthday party and your child and the
birthday child aren't as close as the birthday child and others. It may be because the other kids didn't know your child wanted to play the game. Or it could be very much intentional. No matter
what or why, whether or not there's a logical explanation, feeling excluded hurts.
You child will also exclude
You can also take this time to talk about treating others as you want to be treated. Exclusion, whether intentional or not, happens every day, and almost all of us do it. Most of us learn over time
how to be a bit more discreet in that inclusion and exclusion.
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