Brain Development In Boys
At a wedding over the summer I was talking to an old friend I haven't seen for years. Her children are older than ours, and I've long thought that if my kids turn out half as good as hers, I'd be a content parent. During our conversations, I made the comment that my teenage son suddenly seemed incapable of basic things he was able to do before, like picking up his dirty socks and other simple tasks.
My friend said to me, "You know he has gaps in his brain right now, right?" I looked at her quizzically. She continued, "There's been research. The way an adolescent boy's brain grows, there are
gaps. Eventually all the gaps will fill in again, but during the teenage years, there are gaps. Connections he used to have are no longer there, judgment can be compromised. My sons were are the
The gift of medical imaging
After that conversation, I sat myself down for some serious Web searching. I found articles about and references to numerous studies that all said different things yet meant the same thing: the
brain of an adolescent boy is different from that of an adolescent girl, and it's still a work in progress.
A reason, not an excuse
So my oldest son may have gaps in his brain, and my younger son likely will get them. Great. They will try to explain now, I'm sure, that leaving the milk out or forgetting to close the front door
or any one of a number of things is "not my fault! There are gaps in my brain!" That's a connection that sure seems to be maintained.
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