Several years ago, I went on a quest for books to have on hand to help my children learn about the birds and bees. I was daunted. Some books were too graphic, and some were too vague. Some treated it like a joke, and some read like boring academic tomes. It took some time -- more than I thought it should take -- but I finally found some that fit our needs.
First of all, you have to decide who you want the book for: Yourself, your child or both.
I personally think that having a couple or three strategically located books around the house as companion volumes (and for different developmental levels) to our talks is an excellent way to reinforce the information I need to convey for my kids' basic knowledge, health and safety. As we've arrived at that age for each of the kids, the books have also been a good refresher course on scientific details for us parents -- and a reminder of what is age-appropriate information.
Once you have determined who the book is for, you have choices as to what the book discusses. You can choose books that discuss the mechanics of reproduction only, books that discuss puberty and
what happens physically when the hormones arrive, and books that discuss emotional topics surrounding both issues. Here is where we get into issues of family values and the books selections get
Some books on reproduction and puberty have a definite moral angle -- one that may or may not mesh with your own. You may want a book that spells out right and wrong in parallel with your own beliefs, or you may want a book that lays out facts and suggests ways to help the reader decide his own path.
One of the best ways to find helpful books is to ask your close friends with older children for recommendations. Guidance counselors and pediatricians are also good sources for ideas.
After all this, it's time to acquire a book or two and then start reading, Especially if the book is meant for your child at some point, you must know everything the book has to say. You probably know much of the information in these books, but you may be surprised at what you don't know!
The birds and bees conversations are some of the most important discussions we'll ever have with our kids. Books can help you get it right the first time.
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