I used to be a bit of a stickler about my kids' attire, and especially about my daughter's clothing. Somewhere along the line - though I don't quite know when - I let go a bit. I figured that as long as I was fine with the modesty and appropriateness levels of what my kids had in their closet, it was time to let them develop their own senses of style. This has been particularly fun with Sunshine.
My boys already dress somewhat according to peer pressure. With boys, at least around here, it's fairly benign. Tshirts. Jeans. Sneakers. Blah, but whatever.
Soon enough, my daughter will want to conform to what her friends are wearing. There will be a desire for the latest trend, or as a friend and I refer to it, the "uniform." In our little town currently it's Ugg boots, jeans and a pink North Face fleece jacket for the girls. While I cringe at the idea of paying that much for a pair of boots when I am an adept Marshall's bargain hunter, I understand that fitting in on some level is important for girls of a certain age. We'll deal with that then.
Until then, I have an opportunity to foster creativity in my girl's wardrobe, and I intend to take advantage of that.
Aside from a couple of holidays, I no longer think of outfits when it comes to the kids' clothes. I don't even think of "coordinating separates." I let them choose (within budget, within
appropriateness guidelines) what they like. Sunshine has some fabulous tights and skirts, and she is always a colorful combination.
Allowing her this freedom has made mornings easier. She's happy with what she wears, and I have less of a tussle getting her downstairs, ready for the day. Sometimes she comes up with combinations I would just never consider - and I am careful to express only positives for her creative mixes and matches. No laughing is alllowed. Overall we're all happier and our world is a whole lot brighter.
Will this really make a difference when she hits the peer pressure years? I don't know, though I hope so. I like to think that maybe my Sunshine will start trends instead of following them. At the very least, even if she does to buy into the "uniform" whatever that may be, she'll have my support and encouragement in pairing some really funky socks with those standard issue shoes - and that sense of positive support will spill out into other areas of her life.
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