It used to be that all the kids were in bed about 8:00PM on weeknights and 8:30PM – 9:00PM at the latest – on the weekends. On week nights, the post bedtime hour or two was devoted to household tasks or work tasks or even exercise. But on weekend nights, the hours after the kids were in bed were together time for my husband and myself. We'd often rent a move, open some wine and snuggle up on the couch. It was quiet, nice, and the right price.
As the kids get older, this is happening less and less. Even a year ago we'd be able to have these cozy nights in. As Alfs gets older, and particularly starting this school year, he stays up to 10:00PM on weekend nights. By the time he is in bed, it's just too late to start a movie; honestly, we can't stay awake late enough! I miss those quiet hours with my husband. I miss our Saturday nights!
Of course, we probably should get out of the house a little more anyway, but it's not the whole solution, and I don't know for certain what the rest of it is. I do know my husband and I need at least a little sense of separation within the walls of our house.
Even though finding a way to be alone in our own house will be an issue for some time, I know it won't last forever. Eventually the kids will have their own social lives and be out most weekends. Then, probably, we'll me missing them or waiting up for them, and wishing we could share Saturday evenings at home with them.
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