Instill A Strong Sense Of Self-Worth
Often it's the simple day-to-day routine that plays a pivotal role in shaping a girl's view of herself and the world around her. As parents, we want to surround our daughters with enough meaning in their lives that they can develop a strong sense of self and have confidence in their abilities.
Why self-esteem is important
Girls (and boys) with good self-esteem have confidence in their ability to face challenges and a belief in their own ability to achieve goals. They have strong feelings of self-worth and as they grow, they develop an ability to surround themselves with people who support and encourage them. Girls with little self-worth or issues of low self-esteem often end up developing toxic relationships throughout their lives. There are a number of ways that parents can help boost their daughters' self-esteem and nurture their confidence.
Swimming against the tide
With three young daughters of her own, Deborah Palgon knows that raising daughters isn't always easy. "One experience I remember, in particular, occurred when my oldest daughter was in kindergarten," recalls Palgon. "At the time, I was not prepared for an incident that would test my daughter's confidence in herself. As a preschooler, my daughter always liked to play with blocks, building houses and cities for her imaginary games. Every day after she came home from school I would ask her what she played that day and every day my daughter would answer, 'House.'"
"One day after her usual answer, I asked her why she didn't play any other games. At that point she admitted she didn't always feel like playing house, but none of the other girls played in the block area."
Palgon's daughter explained — and complained — that only the boys played in the block area. And it was this moment that Palgon realized she had an opportunity to encourage her daughter. "If you like building with blocks and you don't do it," her mom told her, "then, you're missing out on fun. Tell the boys you want to play, too." No kindergarten child wants to be deprived of a fun time, and that reasoning seemed to work for her.
From that point forward, Palgon's young daughter played with the boys and went on to have a more enjoyable kindergarten experience. She learned to be independent and confident, and also learned that it's sometimes difficult but necessary to swim against the tide.
Boosting her self-esteem
From kindergarten through high school and beyond, parents should take opportunities, like Palgon did, to help their daughters face challenges, overcome obstacles and pursue their goals and dreams. These simple guidelines can help parents raise confident, strong daughters.
Around the web
Sites for girls abound on the internet and range from playful and creative to serious and informative. Many of these empowering websites can help boost girls' self-esteem as they explore their creative side, discover their passions, connect with others and get answers to their questions.
A Girl's World
National Women's History Project
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