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Update: In Heartbreaking Video, Mara Lane Learns of Her Miscarriage

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‘So, unfortunately, the fetus has no heartbeat today’

Update September 13, 2017, 12:30 p.m. ET: Following her courageous announcement of her pregnancy loss — and her husband's subsequent relapse — Mara Lane also shared a beautiful and heartbreaking video of the moment she learned of her miscarriage.

In the video, Lane shares her sonogram as well as her doctor's news: "So, unfortunately, the fetus has no heartbeat today." The post also includes a gorgeous image of the tree where the fetus is "planted."

"I have been given peace," Lane writes, "and Baby Willow is now planted in the tree in front of our home that has weeping long branches and leaves so we can brush our faces in soft leaves in passing or we can see the baby dance with the wind in the branches as they sway. It is helping me process the situation... as Nature does. Thank you again Dr Stu for getting us through that as watching a sonogram not have a heartbeat is very surreal and beyond sad... May we grow as humans and have more compassion for all humanity."

To the showering of love received, thank you from bottom of our hearts. I am so humbled and got teary-eyed several times at how beautiful humans can be and so sad but hopeful with the stories shared of depression and miscarriage and addictions. Thank you for sharing your soul and stories back, as this helps us feel that we are not alone. Anyone who knows me personally knows I would normally never share such personal sadness (only because in my head, I would not want to burden others and because I trust that in time God will heal me) but I was happy to come to my husband's defense. I could not sit back and see him attacked by Darkness publicly during such a tender time. Thank you for coming to ours. Please continue to always write or comment about your days no matter what I share as when I see it I will return the love back someway or it will be read by someone else who can too. I so wish that I could support you on all your walks and sad days so hopefully the posts I share will make you laugh or lighten your days or make you smile/brighten them somehow. This is not a highlights nor lowlights reel, but simply an in-the-middle to keep in contact. I was very vulnerable in my last post as well as being at an all-time low and on such days I sometimes will feel the need for support, so thank you for being so kind to me and being a safe place. We will try to be more transparent on our journey as I see it may be helpful for others as well as ourselves. We don’t have to carry the weight of the world ourselves. We can help lift one another up. I have been given peace and Baby Willow is now planted in the tree in front of our home that has weeping long branches and leaves so we can brush our faces in soft leaves in passing or we can see the baby dance with the wind in the branches as they sway. It is helping me process the situation … as Nature does. Thank you again Dr Stu for getting us through that as watching a sonogram not have a heartbeat is very surreal and beyond sad. Thank you Father God for supernatural peace. May you afford those who seek you the same peace and may we grow as humans and have more compassion for all humanity.

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Original story:

We were saddened to hear that Mara Lane, actor and wife of Jonathan Rhys Meyers, recently endured a miscarriage — and that Meyers, who has battled alcoholism in the past, has suffered a relapse after the loss of their baby.

Lane and Meyers — who share son Wolf, born in December 2016 — acknowledged both the miscarriage and the Irish actor's struggle in a deeply moving Instagram post on Sept. 10.

9/7/17 Forever Young With much sadness, we open our hearts to share that J and I lost our second child, who was baking in the oven. Child was very very much wanted (right now especially by J, so he took the news particularly not so well) and we are still working with coping skills over here... when life throws us curve balls such as these. Depression is a real concern from past abuse as well as alcoholism which he was born with. He has been able to turn any ugliness and hurt in his life into art and is the strongest person I know. I do not know anyone who has been through what he has been through and reached his level of successes. It does seem though that every time we seem to be making so much progress... sometimes it's like two steps forward, one step back. Thank you family and friends and all of you lovely kind beautiful people who send us good energy and thoughts and support. It is so appreciated. I have so much love for you. To some others, my husband is an Irishman who battles alcoholism and depression and drank between jobs to try to cope with the sadness of this news. I am trying to and still learning/adjusting to living with the public, like one would as a concerned mother-in-law. I feel that whomever took photos of my husband was slightly in the wrong and was concerned for the wrong reasons but ... it's ok. It's ok. Maybe you have/had a family to feed and need/needed money? I don't know. We forgive you. He is safe and with his sober living companion and bodyguard to get into a detox closer to home since he was denied hospital help twice in Ireland because of an already two month wait period. Life is life. Life is beautiful. Life is tough sometimes though so let's try not looking down at someone unless we intend on helping them up. Sending love to those in... Texas, Florida, India and Mexico with all the natural disasters going on. We are both so sensitive and the past couple of weeks have been so ouch in our hearts for all humans and animals affected. With Love, M&J

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Lane captioned the post, "With much sadness, we open our hearts to share that J and I lost our second child, who was baking in the oven. Child was very very much wanted (right now especially by J, so he took the news particularly not so well) and we are still working with coping skills over here... when life throws us curve balls such as these."

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Lane wrote poignantly about their family's experiences:

"Depression is a real concern from past abuse as well as alcoholism which he was born with. He has been able to turn any ugliness and hurt in his life into art and is the strongest person I know," she said of Meyers. "I do not know anyone who has been through what he has been through and reached his level of successes. It does seem though that every time we seem to be making so much progress... sometimes it's like two steps forward, one step back."

Meyers, a Golden Globe winner, was forcibly removed from Dublin Airport recently when he was too intoxicated to fly. Lane acknowledged the paparazzi photos of the incident in her Instagram post.

"My husband is an Irishman who battles alcoholism and depression and drank between jobs to try to cope with the sadness of this news. I am trying to and still learning/adjusting to living with the public, like one would as a concerned mother-in-law," she said. "I feel that whomever took photos of my husband was slightly in the wrong and was concerned for the wrong reasons but... it's ok. It's ok. Maybe you have/had a family to feed and need/needed money? I don't know. We forgive you."

We are utterly in awe of Lane's eloquent, compassionate response to paparazzi photos during such an excruciatingly painful time for her family.

Where is Meyers right now? Lane wrote that he's getting help by residing with a bodyguard and a sober friend. He was unable to be admitted to a hospital, as there was a two-month waiting period in place.

Lane ended her post, "Life is life. Life is beautiful. Life is tough sometimes though so let's try not looking down at someone unless we intend on helping them up."

Beautifully said.

Originally published September 11, 2017. Updated September 13, 2017.

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