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Nikki Reed Says She & Ian Somerhalder Will Take 'Month of Silence' After Baby

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The couple plans to unplug completely when their first child arrives

Nikki Reed and Ian Somerhalder are on the verge of first-time parenthood — and these two have a plan to unplug completely once the baby comes.

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(Sshh. Don't tell them plans tend to go out the window when actual, nontheoretical baby makes a grand entrance. They're new at this.)

Reed talked to Fit Pregnancy and Baby for its latest issue and opened up about her pregnancy and her hopes for their baby.

Reed said that she and Somerhalder plan to cocoon with their new arrival and shun the pressure to share health updates and photos.

“We’ll take the baby’s first month for ourselves,” Reed said. “After the baby arrives, we’re doing one month of silence. Just the three of us, no visitors, and we’re turning off our phones too, so there’s no expectation for us to communicate.”

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They are unplugged, granola-parenting perfection, these two, and the baby hasn't even arrived.

We love their wise thinking about the newborn days. "You don’t get those first 30 days back, and we want to be fully present," Reed said.

Fair enough. But we hope the couple is not too hard on themselves if their baby proves too darn cute to resist sharing pics. Hey, it happens to the best of us.

The couple has been pretty private about the pregnancy — in fact, Reed revealed it was months before she and Somerhalder even told family and friends about the baby on the way.

Reed said it was "this really cool thing, a secret with just each other."

So we're betting you won't be surprised that the couple is also waiting to find out the sex of their child. “It’s the greatest and only true surprise of your life.”

Wellllll, we're not sure it's the only true surprise in a lifetime, but yeah, it is pretty great, we have to agree.

The couple is not eager for any surprises when it comes to the delivery itself, and so Reed plans to have a doctor, doula and massage chiropractor on hand to keep her "comfortable and informed."

Bless her. "Comfortable" is not a word we usually associate with childbirth no matter how smooth, but we've got fingers crossed that Reed's birth plan goes... well, as planned.

“I used to want a home birth, unmedicated and with a midwife. But now I know people who’ve had great experiences at birthing centers and hospitals,” Reed said.

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“My doctor says, ‘Midwives always think nothing will go wrong. Doctors always think something will. Let’s find a place in the middle,’” Reed said. “So Ian and I are looking at all options.”

Somerhalder, for his part, is loving the effect Reed's pregnancy is having on her. “Ian jokes that he wants to keep me pregnant forever,” she said. “Pregnant, I’m a better version of myself. I’m really chill and relaxed, which I think is the greatest blessing.”

Reed is also completely loving pregnancy, “Being pregnant has given me this new and powerful appreciation for my body...I want to write my pregnant body love letters, it’s so f***ing cool!”

A lot of pregnant women want to send their pregnant body hate mail ("Hey, thanks for the hemorrhoids!"; "Nah, I didn't need that nine months of sleep anyway!") so we kind of wonder if Reed conceived their baby in the shadow of a glittering unicorn while kittens bounced on fluffy clouds overhead. Next time? We'll have what she's having.

Seriously, though, we love the pure positivity of these two about the road to parenthood — and when the baby throws them some unexpected curveballs (which you know it totally will), we're betting they'll be able to handle it just fine. After the initial shock wears off.

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