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This Mom Was Shamed After Her Child With ADHD Threw a Tantrum — & It's Not OK

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Every parent can relate to this

There are few parenting moments worse than the classic public meltdown of a tantruming child — and the inevitable looks-that-could-kill from strangers.

As reported by Redbook, single mom of two Taylor Myers works hard to keep her 4-year-old daughter, Sophie, on an even keel, but it's a constant struggle. Sophie has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and is prone to outbursts that make her mom's life challenging to say the least.

In a Facebook post that has gone viral, Myers described a recent incident that took place while she was in a store checkout line. Sophie began attempting headstands and begging for a bag of chips, then lashed out at her mom with a verbal assault.

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Myers tried to hold her ground and refused to give into Sophie's bad behavior, but another shopper behind her in line got nasty.

Understandably, Myers hit her limit. According to her post, frazzled and ashamed, she shot back, "She's four years old and you need to mind your own f***ing business," she told the fellow shopper.

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"She's relentless. I know this. I live with it," Meyers wrote on Facebook. "Her ADHD and obsessive little heart gets on these subjects of things she finds unjust and wrong and it doesn't stop until she eventually falls asleep or something very dramatic happens to snatch the attention off the obsessed-about subject."

She continued, "I walked to self-checkout so I could avoid facing anyone else as 'that person'...with the misbehaving child."

Even if you don't have a child with ADHD, you can probably relate. But there's a happy turn to the story. As Myers cried in a self-checkout lane, a kind woman approached to chat with Sophie.

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Myers wrote, "She asked her questions to distract her, but backs me up when Sophie begins to go on about wanting the chips. 'No, you can't have those today. You have to be good for your mommy.'"

Myers was beyond grateful and wrote poignantly about the cruelty of mom-shaming.

"You never know the problems a child has that causes them to misbehave and unless you know the struggle of being a parent to a child like mine, you cannot judge me," she said. "It only takes one comment to break someone down. But it also takes one small act of kindness to make a mama feel comfort and validation."

Her post went live a few days ago but has already been shared 146,000 times. It's hitting home with a lot of parents.

"They aren't 'children like yours' they are just children," one parent wrote to Myers. "She is alive, she's happy and like you said, she's four. You are doing the best you can and you are doing well."

"Oh I've been there mama. Sending so much love to you," wrote another.

"Your a wonderful and loving mom, not to mention a wise young woman. Ignore the ignorant haters. They are the ones with the problem," said a third commenter.

The moral of the story? We're all just doing the best we can as parents. Let's cut each other more slack — and not just in the comments section of a Facebook post after the damage is done.
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