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Mom Fakes Piercing Daughter's Dimple to Protest Circumcision — & Internet Freaks

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'Altering a child’s body simply for aesthetic reasons is wrong'

Oh dear.

An Ohio mom set the internet on fire on June 28 when she posted a picture of her daughter with a faux dimple "piercing" — as a way of speaking out against the circumcision of children.

Enedina Vance faked a facial piercing on her daughter's cheek with the sarcastic caption, "So I got the baby girl’s dimple pierced...It looks so cute, right? I just know she’s gonna love it. She’ll thank me when she’s older lol. If she decides she doesn’t like it, she can just take it out, no big deal...I’m the parent, she is my child, I will do whatever I want.”

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Yeaaah. You see where this is going.

Vance's post was shared more than 12,000 times, with most commenters seemingly outraged and fully believing the piercing was real.

“This is disturbing [as] hell,” said one commenter. “Each to their own.”

Other commenters caught on that Vance was attempting to make a point against the alteration of children's bodies in any way, but the shock value of her post proved to be too distracting for most.

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One commenter wrote, "Literally nobody on my [Facebook] page got the point of your post."

We have to agree: Her post was maybe not the best way to start a dialogue, as her point was lost in an immediate barrage of mommy-shamers' comments. People were so quick to pounce on the seemingly real facial piercing on Vance's daughter, Vance's main point went out the window. Poof.

A few days after the original post, Vance attempted to clarify her intention in another Facebook post.

“Honestly, my post was meant to shock parents into seeing their children as human beings and to respect them as such. Every angry person who shared my post, did so in an attempt to shine light on an injustice.

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"Some people feel that uneasy feeling of guilt and possibly shame for making a mistake as a parent is what is also known as ‘parent shaming’.

“Unfortunately, they may not have seen piercings or genital cutting as body altering or body modifications before, but they do now and they don’t like how they feel about it. That, of course, is understandable.

“Altering a child’s body simply for aesthetic reasons is wrong.”

The conversation is a valid one to be sure, but we're not sure this was the best way to go about kicking off a complex discussion about child circumcision.

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