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Mom's House Rules for Her Teen Daughter Are Pissing Off the Internet

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Hey, we are all for rules here — go, Mom!

One mom is cracking down on her teen daughter's lazy behavior — but some of the internet is taking her daughter's side, it seems.

The Queensland, Australia, mother simply posted some ground rules for their shared household to remind her daughter "you are part of a family, we are not a motel and I am not your maid." Then she shared them to a community website to empower other parents to do the same.

[Insert slow proud clap from us.]

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Seriously, how is this even a problem, crazy internet? Since when have we become so terrified of offending our precious offspring by expecting them to be participating members of the household?

The mom in question asked to remain anonymous when her story went viral. And she sounds like a pretty damn normal mom to us:

She says, "We love our daughter to bits, but since she got her [driver's license], she has got worse and worse." As they do. Are we right?

So no-nonsense mom posted a list of house rules on her daughter's bedroom door (and on the refrigerator — extra points for that, Mom).

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When she shared her rules on Facebook's Sunny Coast Community Board, though, she was shocked that her list instigated a slew of grumpy comments:

One young woman wrote, "I'm an 18 year old girl I would honestly hate my parents if they spoke to me like that."

Well, duh. Maybe a little parent-hating is a good sign that there's some healthy structure in place?

Mom did get a little tough-love on her daughter by including a warning that she could "find somewhere else to live" if the rules were not followed. "P.S. No, we are not kicking you out of home, this will be your choice for not following these simple rules."

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So what do you think of this mom's expectations for a teen daughter? Out of bed by 10, keeping room clean, home on weeknights between 5 p.m. and 6:30 p.m. to help with dinner and eat with the family, wash up dishes and take trash out, then all is cool if daughter would like to hang with buddies until 10:30 p.m.

Seems legit to us. Definitely not a prison sentence.

There was one more big task, of course: completely cleaning the bathroom once a week.

Gross, sure, but considering everything parents do to hold down a household, we're thinking this is definitely within the realm of acceptable expectations for a teen.

"Respect is earned," the mom's rules said. "You need to show respect to be given respect."

And that respect seems to be working. Only a day into the new rules, and the mom was pleased to see her daughter responding well to them. She's encouraging other parents of teens to give it a go, and she's laughing at the haters and coddlers on social media, whom she has some strong words for. "For all those people who commented it would make me lose my daughter, it worked...These are hard issues no one talks about. It is nice to be able to express how you feel and ask others and make sure you are on the right track."

She said she's had it with "parents who aren't parenting" and what she sees as a ridiculous amount of "disrespectful kids in the world."

No hate from us — we're loving the rules and think Rule Mom's daughter is probably going to fare just fine.

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