SECTIONS
What would you like to know?
Share this Story

Mother sues transgender daughter for transitioning

Meredith Bland is a freelance writer whose work has appeared on Time.com, Brain, Mother, The Rumpus, Scary Mommy and Narratively, among others.

Candidate for Worst Mom Ever claims her civil rights were violated by her daughter

A 17-year-old transgender girl in Minnesota is being sued by her mother for beginning hormone treatments to transition from male to female. In the lawsuit, which was filed on Wednesday, Anmarie Calgaro claims that her civil rights are being violated because she was neither notified of the treatment by the girl's health care provider nor was she asked for her permission.

More: My 5-year-old's friend is transgender and he's doing just fine, thanks

At a press conference announcing the suit, Calgaro said: "It was brought to my knowledge that my son began receiving hormone replacement treatments from Park Nicollet Health Services to transition from male to female, with medical assistance paying for this...I was not consulted or informed about this in any way." Included in Calgaro's lawsuit are the county, the director of that county's public health system, two health care providers, the school district and the principal of the girl's school.

So, this girl didn't tell her mother — who thought it was a good idea to hold a press conference on the issue, repeatedly referred to the girl as "he" and "her son" in that press conference and is suing everyone from the county to the girl's principal — that she was transitioning? Huh. We can't imagine why.

More: A teenager is suing her parents for their Facebook posts

The legal issue at the heart of this case is that in Minnesota a child under the age of 18 who is living separately from their parent is not required to involve that parent in their health care decisions. And in an emancipation statement the girl created in June 2015 with the help of Mid-Minnesota Legal Aid, NBC Out reports that the teen said that, "[the] mother has made it known to him that she no longer wishes to have any contact with him," "knows where he is and has made no attempts to bring him home," and "has taken no actions to report him as a runaway or take legal action to keep him in her home." Calgaro is arguing that parents should always be notified of and involved in their minor children's health care decisions, even if they have banished them from their lives because of the child's gender identity. Because hatred is excusable and children are property, we guess?

For her part, Calgaro says that this case has nothing to do with her daughter's transition. "The transitioning thing isn't even the issue," she said, "the issue is that he's able to make these decisions." Also, Ms. Calgaro has a lovely bridge she'd like to sell you. Please send any offers to the lawyers representing her, who are part of a known anti-abortion law firm called the Thomas More Society. An anti-abortion law firm? And one that is also trying to stop a transgender student in Illinois from using the girl's bathroom? Man. That's got to be one hell of a bridge.

More: I'm a transgender woman, but that doesn't mean I have to take what I can get

Tagged in
Comments
Hot
New in Parenting
Close

And you'll see personalized content just for you whenever you click the My Feed .

SheKnows is making some changes!