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Kelly Clarkson has the right attitude toward mom guilt

When she's not writing, Claire Gillespie can most often be found wiping snotty noses, picking up Lego, taking photos of her cat or doing headstands.

Mom guilt is perfectly normal, but it can be kept in perspective à la Kelly Clarkson

Very few mothers are immune from mom guilt, and having celebrity status makes no difference at all.

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Kelly Clarkson is the latest celeb mom to confess her own struggles with juggling motherhood with work and other commitments. Clarkson, who is mom of son Remington "Remy" Alexander, 6 months, and daughter River Rose, 2, as well as stepmom to two kids from her husband Brandon Blackstock's first marriage, spoke at the S.H.E. Summit, a women's empowerment event in New York.

And she was refreshingly honest about it, saying, "While I love music, my family comes first. There are days where shit hits the fan, and I’m crying because there’s not enough time to do everything. But that’s any mom. It’s a hard thing to take care of children. You’re molding lives. You don’t want to suck at it."

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Clarkson's mom guilt stems mainly from the fact that she does have help to look after her kids.

"I think I have mom guilt too because my mom didn’t have help and I have help," she confessed. "I feel like, 'Why can’t I do it all?' But you can’t. That’s dumb."

So what's her answer? It's simple: She tries to enjoy every moment she has with her children. "I do so much for them and I do bend over backwards," she admitted. "But it doesn’t matter. If you’re a mom, you want to be with your kid every day. You don’t want to miss a moment and you want her to need you and want you and not want somebody else."

You don't have to be an international superstar like Clarkson to relate to how she feels about mom guilt. Our kids don't know if we're on a world tour or working in an office, school or hospital. They just know when we're there and when we're not. Those feelings of guilt won't ever go away completely, but they shouldn't preoccupy our minds when we are spending time with our kids. Enjoying every moment sounds like pretty good advice to us.

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