The spooky season is upon us, full of mystery and magic that comes with the Halloween holiday. Some people feel that Halloween is similar to adoption in that it seems mysterious and full of surprises, but understanding some basics about the process will help you begin your adoption journey on the right foot. To celebrate the season, here are some scary good tips for adoption success.
Don’t believe in adoption myths
There are many myths surrounding adoption that cause people to second guess their path. Understanding what is myth and what is fact will help you make better decisions during your journey and will build confidence throughout the process.
Start now and be ready by New Year's Eve
Waiting until the first of the year to start your adoption journey could needlessly draw out your waiting period. When you begin adoption, you have to learn about the process, select your professionals, create your profile, complete your home study, and then wait. But many potential birth mothers who find out they are pregnant near the end of the year will put off making a decision until January, making January and February a busy time for matches. If you start now, you can be ready to be presented to prospective birth mothers in January.
Find a team of adoption professionals
There is no question that the adoption process is confusing! Trying to learn the process and do it yourself will cause bumps in your journey towards a family and will significantly lengthen the process. You have to know the best way to present yourself to a prospective birth mother, to sign up with multiple adoption agencies, to have a risk assessment performed on every opportunity, and the list goes on. This doesn’t even include understanding your state’s particular adoption laws which can vary wildly, the best method to lobby your employer for adoption leave, or different ways to pay for adoption and reduce the costs where you can.
It is important to hire people, such as an adoption consultant, who understand the process and know exactly what you need to do to see a quick and successful adoption.
Keep an open and flexible mind
There may be some firm parameters you have for the opportunities that you’ll consider, but understand the more requirements you have, the longer your wait time will be. For example, some people want to adopt a boy instead of a girl, or vice versa and they expect that to eliminate about 50 percent of their opportunities. What they don’t factor in is all the potential birth moms who are unaware of the baby’s gender prior to selecting a family. This is just one example of how it’s important to be fully informed of the implications of each of your decisions. You don’t have to give up things that are important to you for the sake of a shorter wait time, but realize the process could take longer the more criteria you have.
Nicole Witt is the owner of The Adoption Consultancy (www.TheAdoptionConsultancy.com), an unbiased resource serving pre-adoptive families by providing them with the education, information and guidance they need to safely adopt a newborn, usually within three to 12 months.
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