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I found out the worst day of the year to announce you're pregnant

Monica Beyer is a mom of four and has been writing professionally since 2000, when her first book, Baby Talk, was published. Her main area of interest is attachment parenting and all that goes with it, including breastfeeding, co-sleepin...

I told everyone I was pregnant, but no one believed me

I was a mere six months into my first full-time professional job when I discovered I was pregnant with my third baby. With my prior two pregnancies, I announced to friends and family right away, because I couldn't bear to wait. This time, I still felt like a newbie on staff, so I chose to wait before making the big announcement at my place of employment.

I figured that a couple of weeks would be perfectly adequate, as I would have time to build up my courage to let my employers know that I would be needing time off for doctors' appointments and an eventual maternity leave. The trouble was, the morning when it "felt right" and I got my courage up, I stupidly didn't look at nor even consider the date I ultimately chose to reveal my pregnancy.

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It was April 1.

April Fools' Day pregnancy jokes are a time-honored tradition for those who lack the imagination required to come up with something better. Don't get me wrong — a pregnancy announcement is almost always a huge shock no matter who shares it, and pranking your husband, friends or family in this manner is guaranteed to create huge reactions. It's a little too easy, though, and there is a dark side — it's a good way to get the hopes of a potential grandparent up, which is cruel, and it's also a good way to deeply disturb and alienate friends or family members who have suffered from infertility, fetal loss or stillbirth.

Regardless, my ill-timed announcement at work was happily met with genuine, heartfelt congratulations from my immediate supervisor (who knew that I wasn't stupid enough to pretend to be pregnant), but the rest of my co-workers gave me tons of side-eye — because I was stupid enough to announce my pregnancy on the ultimate day of pranks, jokes and "gotcha" moments.

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It took days, people — days — to convince my fellow staff members that I was really pregnant. Weeks, in some cases. They actually thought I was banal enough to not only fake a pregnancy, but was willing to keep that charade going for months in order to keep my sick joke going. It made me not only wonder why I was so dumb to announce on that date in the first place, but why my co-workers thought I was willing to continue on for so long. Did I come across as a huge weirdo in the workplace? Was it because I was still relatively new? Did they think I was so committed to this sham that I couldn't bear to let it go? Even though it's been well over a decade, I still ponder these things.

Eventually, of course, these lovely folks got over their suspicion and embraced my pregnancy, even throwing me a lovely baby shower and treating me with amazing respect. My immediate supervisor worked with me to get the maximum time off I requested and took my resignation when my baby was nine months old (because I couldn't deal with the whole working-mom-with-a-baby thing) with grace.

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However, there are two important lessons to be learned here because of my shortsighted mistake: Don't pretend to be pregnant on April Fools' Day, and if you are pregnant, under no circumstances should you announce it on April Fools' Day — unless you want side-eye, disbelief or a lack of hearty congratulations from the people in your life.

In other words, don't be like me.

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I told everyone I was pregnant, but no one believed me
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