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Mom finds out the hard way that vasectomies don't always work

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Mom pregnant with twins... after her husband's vasectomy

New York Jets quarterback and father of 10 children Antonio Cromartie has big news. Despite getting a vasectomy, he and his wife Terricka are expecting twins this summer.

The pair have two children together already, and Cromartie has eight others from previous relationships, so these twins will bring the total number of Cromartie children up to a clean dozen, not that it seems to faze the couple. They seemed excited about the impending dual births when they spoke to Us Weekly, though they did admit to a little moment of "Oh God please no," according to Terricka:

"Originally, he was like, 'Oh, s***! Are you serious? How did this happen?' It was shocking news for the both of us. It took me a while to process it, but Antonio stood firm and was saying, 'It’s God’s will.' And he’s been excited the whole time."

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It's good that they're looking forward to this unexpected bump in the road, because some folks would be — understandably — less than thrilled in their shoes. Vasectomies, while reversible, are meant to be permanent birth control, and are therefore one of the most popular methods of sterilization. And for good reason: They're favored for their high rate of prevented pregnancies (99.85 percent) and for the fact that when compared to tubal ligation, the surgery required is pretty noninvasive.

Vasectomies also tend to be less expensive, about $900 to tubal ligation's $5,000-85,000, but not so bargain-basement priced that, when coupled with the cost of raising the kid who slipped through Dad's best defenses, your average everyparent wouldn't cringe if it failed.

Of course, money isn't the only thing at issue. People who choose to undergo sterilization usually do so for very good reasons, like already having 10 kids and being satisfied with their current ensemble of children. They don't usually undergo surgery because maybe they don't want any more kids. They already know they don't.

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These two seem to be taking it in stride, and they certainly wouldn't be the first that have had to come to terms with a post-vasectomy baby. Vasectomy failures, while rare, definitely happen, a fact you probably already know if you recently had one. Sperm can take up to three months to clear the system, so while some guys feel OK jumping into the sack in a week or two, it's recommended that you wrap that package up, just in case.

Some people might be surprised to learn that a condom or other secondary form of birth control is recommended in the months immediately after a vasectomy, and who knows?

Terricka Cromartie definitely thought she was in the clear, joking that, "In my head we were good to go, we were having free sex! I just really thought that his procedure was the best protection you could have at this point.”

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There's no such thing as free sex. Well, OK, technically there is, but in the months immediately following a vasectomy, all of that carefree sex you think you're having could be fertile, twin-producing sex that you don't find out you were having until after the fact. So it's definitely worth it to wait until the doctor gives you the all (literally) clear.

All's well that ends well for the couple, and both are eager to welcome their twins into the world and looking forward to adding new members to the family. But they do plan on stopping at 12, and to accomplish that, Terricka Cromartie is planning on getting a tubal ligation.

Maybe that will finally get the job done!

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