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Dad's former job gets his kid kicked out of kindergarten

Monica Beyer is a mom of four and has been writing professionally since 2000, when her first book, Baby Talk, was published. Her main area of interest is attachment parenting and all that goes with it, including breastfeeding, co-sleepin...

Could your kid get kicked out of school for your naughty past?

Jay Grdina, ex-husband of porn legend Jenna Jameson, had gone through six months of interviews during a school application process for his son, Jayden.

The little boy was accepted and was all set to start kindergarten at Scottsdale Christian Academy in Arizona. Bad news, though — the day before his first day, Grdina got a rude awakening in the form of an email from school administrators.

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Jayden was essentially getting kicked out of kindergarten before he even stepped foot into the school: "It has been brought to our attention that due to the lines of business that your family is/was in would violate these foundational critical issues of SCA," the email read.

The business they are referring to was a wildly successful porn company he ran with his then-wife, which was called Club Jenna. He has since remarried and moved on, now running a "hangover drink" business, but apparently making those changes in his life was not good enough for the SCA. The couple must scramble to find another school to enroll their son in, and he'll be behind his peers, as they've all gone back to school already. Grdina and his wife plan to file a lawsuit against the SCA.

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While it's distressing that the school waited until the day before classes started to inform the child's parents that their son couldn't attend, it is also a little alarming that this dad's very public pornography business past continues to affect his life — and the life of his child — long after he exited the business (he and Jameson divorced and sold the company in 2006, before his kids were even born.).

This story comes with a valuable and, frankly, pretty scary endnote: What you do with your life before you have kids can be used against you and your family, despite how unfair this may seem. No matter what you've been through and what changes you've made for the better, your tumultuous past may catch up to you in the worst way, and your kids may suffer for it.

Of course, non-celeb parents usually don't have to worry about something quite as huge as this (after all, Club Jenna was extremely successful and popular before they sold it to Playboy), but it is still a concern that some parents have, particularly if they had a stormy past where they made poor decisions or if they were involved in an unpopular industry, such as the porn biz.

And even for those who don't have obvious transgressions or affiliations with pornography in their past, something like this can be a slippery slope. There are still things we do that may, in the future, raise a few eyebrows and affect our kids. What about a Twitter rant you went on a few years ago or racy Facebook posts you've made in the past? Even if something you did ages ago doesn't keep your kid out of kindergarten, it may color other parents' perceptions of you to the point where maybe they won't want your child to hang out with theirs.

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It would be nice if the past stayed in the past, but as this incident shows, that's not always the case. We're hopeful that Jayden can find a place in a school that doesn't judge him for his father's past and that he thrives there despite the rocky beginning to his educational career.

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