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Moms of little ones, make love now!

Ellen Coy is a mom to three teens and wife to a husband of many, many years, but she married young so she still thinks she's pretty hip. She's written a lot of things for a lot of places but she can't tell you where or what. Terrible Tee...

How teens can kill your sex life

If there's one thing I wish I'd done more of when my kids were little… well, there are lots of things I wish I'd done more of when my kids were little, but if there's one important thing I wish I'd done more of when my kids were little, it would have been to have more sex.

Don't think you'll have time when they get older because you really won't.

Yep, you read that right, and I know you're probably thinking, what?

How is it possible to have sex when the kids are little? When you're so busy diapering, feeding, bathing, doing laundry and then doing all that over and over again, all day long?

But there was time, because babies go to bed at 7 p.m. in cribs.

Think about this, you young moms. Your babies are corralled in a crib until they are almost 3 years old. That's three years you can be doing it without worrying about being caught. They cannot get out, they cannot run into your room asking for water or telling you about a nightmare.

Yes, you're tired with a baby. I get that. You don't feel like doing it. I truly understand. But remember this: When your kids are teenagers and you might feel like doing it, you're not going to have as many chances. Your kids are going to ask you to make them food, help with homework, drive them places or they're going to want you to do their laundry or make them MORE food. There will actually be no time for you and your hubby to be alone, ever, not even if you're in the mood for a sweet little cuddle.

You know what the worst part is of being in the mood when you have teenagers? If you are able to sneak in some lovin' and you lock your bedroom door, they totally know what you're doing, and that's extremely gross to them, and then the idea that your kids are thinking about you doing it makes you feel all gross about it too. Because, yeah, don't you remember thinking about your parents doing it? Gross!

So that leaves not a lot of room for intimacy. And it's nearly impossible to get any time alone in a house with three teenagers. You might think they go out all of the time, and yes, they do go out. But they don't all go out at the same time. And when one of them is home, that kid is usually home with a few of his or her friends. There is no time for us to be alone.

So my plea to all you brand-new parents, for the love of all that is good, please, please, make time to make love now before you never have a chance to again.

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