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Here's why you need to call your kid out if he's "looking at" celebrity nudes

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How to talk to your teenage son about fapping to JLaw

Over the weekend, hackers downloaded dozens of female celebrity nudes from the cloud and distributed them gleefully. Instead of focusing on the criminals who violated women's privacy and the pervs who delighted in the stolen photos, many focused on the so-called scandal. Your teenager probably checked out Jennifer Lawrence's nudes by third period today. Here's what you need to talk to him about.

1. There's nothing scandalous or slutty about nude photos

JLaw and other celebs had naked pictures of themselves on their iPhones because people take naked pictures with their iPhones. The only reason we didn't end up seeing 200 male celeb dick-pics is because the hackers distributing the photos weren't interested in penises. It wasn't because men don't take photos of their junk. We all know men take photos of their junk. Your son has. Hell, my son has and he's 5. Make it clear that nude cell phone pictures are something adults engage in as part of their private lives — and that those activities should remain private.

2. The only people to blame are the ones who committed a crime

By now plenty of people have offered "helpful" advice to the victims of this awful crime. Don't take nude photos! This advice belongs in the halls of mansplaination right next to don't talk to men you don't know, don't drink alcohol and don't wear short dresses. Your teen's hearing plenty of messages that blame the victims, and you need to be a voice that counteracts rape culture. Just because a woman took — and in many of these cases deleted — a nude photo or sexual photo doesn't mean she deserves to have it stolen and shared. This hacking incident represents a disgusting and undeserved violation. These women didn't have it coming. When you talk to your teen, liken this to having your identity stolen due to hackers. When that happens, it isn't your fault just because you happen to have a social security number.

3. Sharing and "indulging in" these photos perpetuates a sex crime

As the stolen celeb nudes spread like wildfire across social media, a whole bunch of men celebrated with a whole bunch of really tasteless memes and images making it super clear how they intended to consume the stolen photos. Let's just say they weren't making photo mugs. Reframe the situation so that your teen sees it from a fresh perspective. In a massive hacking event currently being investigated by the FBI, thousands of internet users redistributed stolen property and bragged about masturbating to it. Don't make light of this when you talk to your teen. Get real. Frame it in a way that makes it absolutely clear that as widespread as this is, it isn't normal, funny or in any way OK. These women have been abused and sharing their photos perpetuates that abuse.

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