This past Christmas, my kids got everything they asked for. But then, I could see an air of entitlement come over them when my 9-year-old quickly started laying out her demands for her January birthday present. It was as if I hadn't just dropped a load of money on her tablet — a gift that I'm sure is not normally reserved for a kid her age. Add to that the fact that my other kids were breaking their toys by day's end, probably because it's hard to appreciate things when they're given to you so easily.
This got me thinking that my kids will really have a hard time outside of the home when they face life, because we all know that life is tough. This means that I need to teach them about rewards and disappointments as well as about successes and failures in life. All kids need to learn how to deal with it when things don't go their way or when they don't get what they want.
As a kid, I can remember never being chosen to be a safety monitor at school. Major disappointment. I really wanted to be in charge of directing the other kids down the hall and giving out tardy passes. I was really mad, and I didn't know how to handle that disappointment in any way other than just being mad. Even as an adult, I have been disappointed at times when I didn't land a certain job or campaign, thinking I was the better candidate. Disappointment doesn't have an age limit. It will constantly come and go in life, and I try to teach my kids that everything won't come their way as smoothly and as easily as a Christmas toy under a tree does. Kids need to know that whatever disappointments and failures come their way, they'll need to pull themselves up by their own bootstraps and make the most of it!
Here are nine common phrases that you should teach your kids to help prepare them for failures and successes in life:
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