Since texting is the new first step in dating, as women, we simply can't help but mull over every word and emoticon to ensure the 160 characters we craft make him fall in love with us.
What do men really want from us over text? For the past four years, it's been our mission at Flirtexting to study, analyze and decode texts from the men we date. When we're not with him, we want to make sure he's thinking about us. To get the scoop on how to make men fall (and stay) in love with us via text, we decided to go straight to the source. We asked tons of our hot, eligible guy friends and here are their uncensored answers.
This is what really turns guys on (and off) when it comes to women sending them flirty texts:
"Spontaneous, short and sweet, sexy texting. Phone calls. Playing hard to get, but not too hard." — Anonymous male
Sarcasm and poking fun. Guys love women who can throw sarcastic and playful banter back and forth with them. For example, a guy you recently started dating returns from a trip and texts you with "I'm back." Your response: "You were away?"
Movie quotes are always a good use of a flirty text. Whether it's a movie or actor you both enjoy, try responding back to his text with a quote he's sure to know.
Ask him out
While our traditional mothers might faint at the thought of us asking a guy out, our guy friends told us they actually appreciate the gesture. Avoid being too forward (e.g. "Do you want to take me out to dinner?") and make sure your approach is subtle and feminine. Try something like, "I know a cute blonde girl who's interested in hanging out Thursday night if you're free." By taking this approach, there's still room for him to steer what type of date it'll be.
"Sharing my texts with others without asking. Unsolicited sexting. One letter responses. Too much small talk. Long-winded texts that go nowhere — 160 characters or less... preferably less." — Anonymous male
Using flighty abbreviations
Expressions like "Perf" and "Totes amaze" should be reserved for your girlfriends, not your crush.
Asking him what he thinks about your outfit for your date or what you should order signals a lack of confidence and independence.
Using friend-zone terms
Using words like kiddo, sport and buddy in your flirtext to him is the quickest way to let him know you are not that into him.
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