Like many guys, my boyfriend Kenny doesn’t see what the big deal is about tossing his clothes on the floor at the end of the day. It's not that he intentionally tries to work my nerves — it’s just how he’s always done things living alone. Me? I know I have the frequent tendency to leave my shoes and random beauty products scattered all around our house. My point being, simply making yourself aware that you both have bad habits you could work on is the first step to achieving your happily ever after.
Seriously, breathe. Like, a lot! I utilize this method all the time when I want to bite Kenny’s head off over something so dumb, like forgetting to put down the toilet seat again. Admittedly, I don’t always take my own advice (especially if it’s that time of month, eek!) but hey, I’m showing steady improvement…
A few harsh words said in the heat of the moment can lead to a major blowup that neither of you anticipated. Trust me, I’ve been there! So before you open your mouth, determine whether what you’re about to say is worth the potential fight or not. If it is, broach the subject in the calmest manner possible. My favorite line to use on Kenny is, "Sweetie, would you mind….” Or, "Babe, it makes me really happy when you…” Then just fill in the blank with what makes sense. For example, in my case it would be: "Sweetie, would you mind putting your clothes in the laundry hamper when you take them off?” Or, "Babe, it makes me really happy when you throw your clothes in the laundry hamper. Could you make more of an effort to do that?”
I’m not sure if any of you keep up with the Kardashians quite like I do, but on a recent episode of Kourtney & Kim Take Miami, Kourtney’s therapist told her to write down all the cray-cray things she wanted to text to Scott without ever actually sending him the message. Naturally, I’m an impulse texter too and have been known to send some pretty ridic texts to my man, particularly under the influence of alcohol. I’ve found writing things down to be very therapeutic. After, I wait five or 10 minutes and come back to my text, I usually realize what a psycho b*tch I sound like and never hit send. Don’t get me wrong, communication is key, but bitchiness certainly is not. Hold off on having that conversation until you’ve cooled down a bit and can talk to your guy in person.
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