While we were inclined to guess otherwise, a recent Harris Interactive survey found that quite a few of us believe that sex doesn’t have to be the only thing men and women do together. Eighty-six percent of Americans feel that men and women can be “just friends.” The survey was commissioned by Skout, one of the world’s largest mobile networks for meeting new people, and looked at the friendship notions and habits of over 2,500 U.S. adults aged 18+.
There are very few reasons men can’t be friends with women and vice versa. Nearly every woman we know has friends that are male, and most guys we know count females among their peers. If you get along with someone, no matter their gender, you should be able to build and maintain a friendship. But (and there is a but), this can only work in the long term when neither party harbors romantic feelings for the other. If both of you just have a bunch of stuff in common, love hanging out and think highly of one another, there’s nothing standing in the way of a solid friendship.
If one of you has more-than-friend feelings for the other, friendship (as in real, lasting friendship) can be difficult. You can think your guy friends are cute (or even smokin’ hot), but you can’t really be his friend and also wish you were sleeping with him, or that he would finally realize what a great couple you guys would make. Trying to be “just friends” with someone you’re actually in lust (or love) with is torture and can’t often be done successfully.
Of course men and women can be “just friends!” Duh. Just be sure no one involved is setting themselves up for heartbreak by saying they only have “friend” feelings for someone they’re actually smitten with.
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