Being part of a new couple is always exciting — add in the magic of the holiday season and it’s hard not to feel doubly smitten. But before you start gift shopping for your new guy, there are a few rules to keep in mind.
Rules of gift giving
Sure, you might be madly in love after two months of dating (or less), but that doesn’t mean you should shell out for an iPad or video game system for your new man. Be cautious when it comes to gift choices in a new relationship because let’s face it — at this point you really don’t know how long it’s going to last. We don’t want to be overly pessimistic (especially around holiday time), but it is safer to spend less in the beginning.
Choose a thoughtful gift that doesn’t cost too much, rather than splashing out on something big. Ask yourself what he needs and likes and choose a gift based on that. Does his favorite author have a new book out? Pick up the book. Is a band he likes coming through town? Get tickets. Keep it simple, affordable and thoughtful.
Don’t get too personal
If you’re thinking of getting him a watch engraved with a heart (and your initials in it) or a framed photo of the two of you, you may want to rethink your new love gifting strategy. While those are both cute ideas, gifting him with something too personal might scare him off, especially if you’ve only been dating a short time. You can still be romantic without getting too personal, too soon.
Don’t expect the same in return
One of the biggest mistakes some people make in new relationships is to expect their partner to be equally generous or personal with their gifting. Having expectations when you unwrap his gift will only set you up for disappointment. He might not feel that six dates equals a big gift, or that he knows you well enough to get you something overly personal. Just remember, the relationship is new, so if he doesn’t get you a wow-worthy gift, that’s OK — in this case it really is the thought that counts.
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