Perks Of Married Sex

While your single friends might rave about one night stands, summer flings and hot sex with strangers, they likely don’t know what they’re missing when it comes to sex with your spouse. There are a few key reasons married sex trumps all other kinds. Some women we reached out to agree.

Couple having sex

You know each other really well

While sleeping with someone totally new has its perks (everything is new, exciting and you both want sex all the time), you still don’t know each other’s bodies. When you’re married or in a long-term relationship, you know everything that turns the other person on, what they like, what they don’t -- which can often mean a more consistently enjoyable experience. Satisfaction comes from being able to please your partner.

Real women speak: Sex was different when we first started dating, but now I feel like our connection is so much deeper, which translates into better sex.

-- Mandi, from Orlando, married for six years

You’re comfortable with each other

When you're married, or you’ve been with someone for several years, there are no more inhibitions about asking for what you want or feeling embarrassed because you didn’t shave your legs today. You’re at ease with one another so you aren’t focusing on whether or not he thinks you look good naked or how much he’s enjoying himself. You’re more in the moment, which equals better sex.

Real women speak: I used to be so nervous about having sex with someone new. I just couldn’t relax as much as I wanted to. But my husband puts me at ease so I can really focus on having fun!

 -- Carolyn, from Dallas, married for three years

You’ve learned to communicate

Good sex needs good communication. If you can’t talk about what works, what doesn’t and what you want to try, then you’ll never move past a sex life that’s just OK. Being married usually means you’ve been together long enough to communicate your needs, meaning sex can improve and get better the longer you’re together.

Real women speak: I always thought that sex would inevitably get boring as the years ticked by, but for us, things just keep getting better. I really think it’s because we make a point to talk about sex. It’s not a taboo topic for us.

-- Angela, from Montreal, married for eight years

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Comments on "3 Reasons married sex is better"

Erica, 20 years old November 16, 2012 | 12:50 PM

Me and my husband has been together for 4 years and we've been married for a year now. Our life, since we started dating, has been absolutly amazing! My husband is the guy I lost my virgnity to and ever since then we've had a very healthy life. Now that we're married has never been better! Alot of people say once your married for so long you lose that ual energy you once had but I say thier wrong!Communication is key in a marrige, without that things my get a little ruff in the bedroom:/ Marriage is a beautiful thing, once you marry someone you love there's no need for a one night stand, you have all you need right beside you! (And you get to have all the best ever!!)

Lauren September 18, 2012 | 7:20 AM

Completely agree that marriage isn't usually talked about it a good way, but it can be great if you put forth the effort, just like anything in a marriage. The bottom line is marriage takes work, in all areas, so you need to communicate and find a way to get a long in order to make it great.

Rebecca September 17, 2012 | 4:52 PM

I love this article! after marriage gets such a bad rap, but all three points here are spot-on! It CAN be better after marriage, you just have to make an effort. Thanks for posting.

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