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5 Ways to keep your bridesmaids happy

Jessica Padykula is a freelance writer and editor in Toronto, Canada covering a wide range of  topics for several online lifestyle publications. She is a regular contributor for SheKnows, covering travel, style, relationships, health and...

Bridesmaid pleasing tips

Your wedding may be the biggest day of your life, and you might be over the moon about the prospect of saying “I do,” but that doesn’t give you license to embrace your bossy side.
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Your bridesmaids are there to help you, but it’s a good idea to cut them some slack so they don’t end up resenting you. We share some of the ways you can ensure they’re happy.

Don’t over-schedule them

Expecting your bridesmaids to attend several bridal showers, the bachelorette and a Jack and Jill isn’t fair. While they want to help, they shouldn’t be expected to put their entire life on hold to plan shower games and drive all over town for every event in your honor. Rather than try to cajole all six girls to go to every shower, suggest that only one or two go to various events. They can decide amongst themselves who goes where so everyone’s happy.

wedding costKeep dress costs down

Even though it’s your day and you want everything to be perfect, that doesn’t mean your bridesmaids want to break the bank being part of your wedding. If the dresses you like cost over $200, offer to pay part of the cost, or find something similar for less money. Not everyone has the same financial situation and it’s not fair to assume everyone is able to spend that kind of money on expensive dresses.

Choose universally flattering dresses

Before you decide on a dress, consider your bridesmaids’ body types. If they vary vastly (one is tall, one is top-heavy, one is petite, etc.), consider letting them choose their own style in the color you’ve chosen. No they won’t all look uniform, but at least they’ll feel good in what they’re wearing. If they all have a similar body type, choose a dress that works with everyone's shape. Consult them and have one try the dress on before you make your final choice. The more comfortable your girls feel, the more fun they’ll have.

Allow them some hair and makeup leeway

Not everyone looks good with an updo and red lips. It’s OK to have a general idea of how you want your bridesmaids to look, but don’t dictate exactly how they get their hair and makeup done. Maybe they all end up with a smoky eye and coral lip, but make sure the look works with their skin tones and face shapes.

Show them you appreciate their time

It’s easy to get so caught up in the lead up to your big day that you forget to thank the people that are helping to make it possible. Give them a small gift at the end of the rehearsal dinner and also take a moment to tell them each individually how much their time and support means to you.

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