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Reasons you're single

Still single even though you’ve got a great job, sweet apartment and sparkling personality? There are many reasons why you haven’t yet hooked up with someone for the long term. We share some of the main issues that could be standing in your way.

You stopped looking

As much as it would be great for Mr. Right to walk up to you while you stand in line at the grocery store checkout, that scenario just isn’t likely to happen outside of a romantic comedy. It’s easy to lament your lack of a love life, but if you aren’t actively trying to put yourself out there, you can’t expect to meet someone you click with. So how do you get back out there? Start saying yes to parties, BBQs, work events and other social situations that could lead to meeting someone great.

You’re in a rut

If you’re always going to the same places with the same people, it’s going to get harder and harder to meet men. Social ruts are just as easy to get into as style, beauty or career ruts, but there’s hope for breaking free. Simply start doing something different. Hang out with someone you haven’t seen in a while, suggest different bars or restaurants as venues for outings with friends, join a club or team or even ask to be set up on a blind date. The more you can do to shake things up, the easier it will be to meet someone new.

You’re stressing too much

The more pressure you put on yourself, the less likely you are to be to meet your Mr. Right. We all know that good things often happen when you least expect it, so stop stressing and start having fun! If you put pressure on yourself and get stressed about not having met someone yet when all your friends are either getting married and having babies, you’ll never move past singlehood. Take a deep breath, relax and focus on enjoying your life. You’ll meet someone right for you soon enough.

You haven’t made time

Work, family and other commitments can easily get in the way of your quest to finally meet someone great. But it can be hard to even realize you no longer have time to go out like you did when you were younger. If you’ve been living at the office and using your spare time to either hit the gym or hole up inside with the television, it’s time to give yourself a break. Make a point to revive your social life as a way to continue meeting people and give your love life a fighting chance.

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Comments on "Why the hell am I still single? Top 4 reasons"

kuu June 01, 2013 | 7:07 PM

there is a guy i like the look of at a grosery store. my love life is more important than him working. how do i get his attintion away from his job for me time. or i can always take up drinking, move to the city and go to overstimulating night clubs. or pick up men at grief consuliong. help him heal from a dead whomever.

Katie September 20, 2012 | 1:46 PM

I agree that you get in a rut and don't really know what to look for anymore. Life isn't bad single, but it can be so much more rewarding when you have someone to share it with. Keep looking ladies!! There is someone out there for you :)

ladyinny September 05, 2012 | 10:22 AM

I've seen this from a lot of my single lady friends, and one of the most common reasons a lot of them are still single is because they play games! Stop it, ladies! stop counting how many minutes between the time he texts you and the time you text him back! Stop being coy, because you're afraid of not being "The Good Girl". Be self-assured that you're awesome, and act like an adult, and that confidence will reflect positively. If a guy is too lame to handle that, then it's his loss.

Laurel August 31, 2012 | 9:00 AM

I don't really agree with this article! It is all about how we as women are too busy, or not putting ourselves out there enough. But what about the women that are?! Men aren't standing up to pursue women like we want. And I think a single, independent woman can be intimidating.

Erin August 23, 2012 | 10:30 AM

I personally think that the main reason some women stay single for so long is they get very used to being single and living their own life. It takes a LOT to change, and if you've already formed habits and are used to singledom, it's going to be that much harder to get attached.

Audrey August 22, 2012 | 10:32 AM

I enjoyed this article because I feel like I ask myself this question close to every day! I use to worry about it constantly but I've slowly learned to just go with it and when something is suppose to work out, it will.

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