Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart

Cheating & love gone wrong

In the wake of the recent Kristen Stewart cheating scandal, in which the Twilight star allegedly stepped out on off and on-screen leading man Robert Pattinson, we wanted to dig a little deeper into what it means for relationships when people stray.

To learn more, we turned to relationship expert to the stars Dr. Gilda Carle. She shares her insight into the “Robsten” drama and offers some tips for couples experiencing a similar situation.

Why Kristen cheated

Ask any Twilight-obsessed fan how anyone could step out on their beloved Robert Pattinson and they’ll likely call for his girlfriend and co-star Kristen Stewart’s blood for her indiscretion toward their beloved celeb crush. So why did she do it? There are plenty of reasons why people cheat. “Kristen knew she was unsure of being committed,” notes Dr. Gilda. Her inability to be honest about her feelings caused her to act out, she suggests.

“Rather than play the girlfriend role as she would in a movie, she should have seen a counselor, and also, she should have told Rob the truth about her feelings,” Dr. Gilda says. “Because she did not, he may never trust her again.”

How she handled things

While cheating is never a wise choice, that aside, no matter who does the cheating (Hollywood star or otherwise), honesty is the best policy in the wake of infidelity. “It was the ‘right’ thing to do for her to openly apologize to Rob and Liberty,” says Dr. Gilda. “She had to do so in public because her cheating occurred in public.”

What’s next for the Twilight couple?

“Right now, this couple must be separate. Kristen needs a lot of time to grow up -- and that must be done on her own,” says Dr. Gilda. “Whether Rob will ever forgive her is questionable. Had she been honest with him about her feelings, although he would not have liked to hear about her uncertainty, at least he would have always known he could trust her,” she explains. “Now, he may never trust her again.” 

Trust really is the most important element here since it’s what helps maintain any bond. “Once trust is broken, it's tough to get back, and it usually takes a long time to rebuild,” Dr. Gilda warns.

Final analysis

Cheating causes breakups because not only is trust breached, but the hurt caused by infidelity isn’t easily forgotten. But in this case, it’s not just Kristen and Rob who were affected. “Kristen hurt a lot of people because of her immaturity,” says Dr. Gilda, but notes that she's only 22. There’s no excuse for what she did, and she likely shouldn’t have been living with Rob until she was sure, but immaturity did play a role in her decision.

But what about the person she cheated with, who happens to be quite a bit older and married? "What's his excuse?" asks Dr. Gilda. "Liberty Ross, his wife, even played Kristen's mother in this movie. So he was cheating in his own backyard,” she says. “How disgusting is it for an allegedly mature director to take advantage of an impressionable and immature subordinate? Who's the grownup here?”

Only time will tell what happens with the Twilight pair, but when it comes to cheating, the key is to notice issues in your relationship before they drive you to make a mistake you regret -- one that hurts the people around you.

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Comments on "When cheating causes a breakup: Hollywood edition"

Lisa August 04, 2012 | 4:02 PM

Cheating is something that I personally could never get over, because of the trust factor. Trust is such a sensitive thing, and if it's gone, it's gone. Some people can and do get over cheating, but that's where Rob will have to decide that for himself. And only time will be the best indicator.

Emma August 03, 2012 | 2:32 PM

Cheating is damaging to any relationship, but when done in such a public forum it can be even more so! It is embarrassing and I feel bad for the person who was cheated on. Separation after such an ordeal is healthy for any sort of healing, whether or not the couple gets back together.

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