No relationship issue can be fixed without talking about it, especially when it comes to sex. If you don’t discuss what’s bothering you, it’s never going to be dealt with in a way that works for both of you. Whether you feel like he doesn’t address your needs in bed, isn’t willing to try new positions that might suit you better or simply only likes sex when it’s convenient for him, getting him to change requires honest discussion. It’s OK to be honest about what you don’t want. A balanced sex life requires continuous dialogue if you want things to work.
The key to keeping your sex life balanced is to ensure you’re both doing things that please the other person. One person shouldn’t get all the attention when you’re having sex -- you have to share. So take turns. Either alternate who gets the most attention or who the focus is on (one day for you, one day for him), or find ways to keep things equal for both of you every time. The point is for both of you to be engaged and enjoying the experience equally.
If you’re not getting what you want or you feel like he’s not giving you what you need, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Be gentle and tactful, and remember that sex is a two way street. If you’re not having fun, what’s the point? Talk to your partner about some of the ways he can make your experience better in a way that doesn’t come across as harsh or insulting. Find a way to lead him in the direction that works well for you and that lets you feel like you’re able to enjoy yourself fully.
If you don’t know how to tell him, show him. Actions really can speak louder than words when it comes to sex.
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