Romantic couple in pool

Summer is the perfect time to kick your relationship up a few notches. The days are long and the nights are warm -- what could be better?

Rev up your relationship

If you feel like your twosome could use a wake-up call, we have some strategies that are guaranteed to rev things up!

Get out of town

Nothing revs up a stalled relationship like a change of scenery. This summer, why not plan a weekend getaway (or a week away if you can swing it) to really reconnect and get back that missing spark? Being somewhere different allows for fresh discussion, more honesty and a lot more fun than doing the same old thing. Whether you grab a last-minute deal to the Caribbean (cheap in the off-season), or spend the weekend at a rented cabin, being away together can go a long way to reigniting your chemistry.

Take on a project

Setting a goal together, whether it’s to learn Spanish (and then go to Spain), repaint the bedroom or volunteer your time as a team, joining forces is a great way to boost your bond. Sit down and figure out what you’d both like to accomplish (from losing weight to running a half-marathon) and tackle your project together. Not only will you be more likely to accomplish your goal if you work together, but it will give you something to bond over.

Eke out more alone time

If you’ve been feeling farther apart lately, it may be due to not spending enough time together, away from distractions. Watching TV while he checks his email, or eating dinner together, but only talking about stressful topics (mortgage, chores that haven’t been done) doesn't count as quality time. So rather than have your time together be either argument-inducing or totally silent, find time to be alone together in a meaningful way. Go for a walk (without your phones), head to a café for a post-dinner catch-up or get a babysitter and go do dinner -- whatever you need to do to spend more quality time as a couple.

Embrace the season

Summer is all about having fun -- embrace it! Have a picnic in the park, invite all your friends over for a big BBQ or pool party, go camping, hiking or biking and hit the beach. The more you find ways to have fun together, the stronger your relationship will be.

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Comments on "How to get the spark back this summer"

Erin July 27, 2012 | 3:38 PM

I really like the idea of setting a goal together. My husband and I are currently setting very rigid financial goals. This allows us to both express what we want and what we want to see change, without any fighting. Together, we can aim to reach these goals. Also, it majorly reduces any fighting regarding money, since everything is laid out.

Bryn July 27, 2012 | 9:29 AM

Summertime is the perfect time to refresh any relationship, not just a dating relationship! It has been such a great time for me to connect with friends and stay active during the long hot days. I am very relationally driven so it is perfect.

Britt July 27, 2012 | 9:27 AM

Setting a goal together is the best way to form a bond, be productive together, and have something to look forward to together. I think I need to suggest the whole learn Spanish, go to Spain idea! That sounds perfect.

Emma July 27, 2012 | 9:24 AM

I love the idea of getting out of town to reignite the spark for this reason exactly: "Being somewhere different allows for fresh discussion, more honesty and a lot more fun than doing the same old thing." I think a change of scenery helps bring out fresh ideas and new adventures to share together.

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