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Having friends is important -- they like you, and they make you feel good. But it’s equally as important to treat yourself well (kind of like being your own best friend).

Be a better friend --
to yourself

You’ll get more done, have more fun and ultimately feel better about yourself. We put together some tips for being a better friend -- to yourself.

Take yourself on a date

Why wait for someone to take you out when you can go by yourself? If there’s somewhere you’ve been itching to try (a new restaurant, café, museum) it can be a great experience to go solo. It’s always fun to have other people around, but by taking yourself on a date, you’re proving that you want to do things just for you, that make you feel good. Besides, the more you’re able to do things on your own, the more confident you’ll become.

Pay yourself daily compliments

Who doesn’t love to hear they look great or that they’re smart, funny and interesting? Don’t just accept compliments from others -- become your biggest cheerleader. Start every day by writing down one thing you love about yourself. The more you do it, the better you’ll feel about yourself over time.

Stay active and put your health first

One of the best ways to be a better friend to yourself is to focus on healthy living. Commit to being active (even just walking 30 minutes a day is a great start), ditch bad habits and make healthy eating a priority. Summer is a great time to get healthy -- it’s gorgeous outside, plus farmers markets full of fresh fruits and vegetables abound.

Focus on what you love about yourself

It’s so easy to focus on what we think is negative (I’m too short, I’m too tall, my hair isn’t straight enough, etc.), but the real key to being your own BFF is to focus instead on the positive. What do you love about yourself? Your sense of humor? The fact that you’re a great listener? Your quirky haircut? There are bound to be tons of great things you have going for you. Make it a point to focus on those.

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Comments on "How to be your own BFF"

Shannon August 14, 2012 | 9:44 AM

I think it's so important to spoil yourself and be comfortable in your own skin. I'm definitely social and extroverted, but deep down I CRAVE alone time! It's nice to relax and not have to appear happy and chatty 24/7. I've never been one that hates being alone. Even when I was little I loved reading a good book over having a sleepover.

Bryn June 25, 2012 | 1:51 PM

I am definitely learning the art of being a better friend to myself. I think it is intimidating at first, but so worth it in the end. I actually look forward to my time alone because I do tend to make a lot of plans for myself so it is really helpful to get the peace.

Erin June 04, 2012 | 5:09 PM

I am definitely my own best friend! Don't get me wrong, I love having friends (other than myself lol!) and cherish them immensely, but I also love hanging out all by my lonesome! I'll take myself shopping and grab a bite to eat from my favorite restaurant. Even just watching TV by myself can be fun - no interruptions and I can watch whatever I want!

Emma May 31, 2012 | 7:31 AM

These are such great tips for treating yourself well. And the better we feel about ourselves, the happier we will be all around! I love the idea of taking yourself out, but I am not confident enough on my own to eat alone at a new restaurant. But even inviting a girlfriend or two along will help with the same idea and get the same results!

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