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We all have a type – someone we look for as we navigate the dating pool in hopes of finding a great guy. But it’s not always wise to steadfastly stick to your type.

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There are some reasons it’s a good idea to date someone who goes against who you usually choose. Here are the top three.

Your type has changed – and you don’t know it

Sometimes we decide who we should be with and discount the fact that we change and evolve over the years (or even months). Who you thought you should be dating might have been right last year, but this year, with changes in your personality, lifestyle and goals, someone else from a different type could be a better match. For example, think about who you dated 10 years ago and who you date now. There's likely a fairly significant difference. Dating outside our pre-conceived type may remind us that what we thought we needed in a man is no longer true.

You could meet someone great

Automatically dismissing someone because they don’t fit into your type could mean you’re missing out on meeting someone great. You may not normally look twice at a suit-wearing financial planner, but he could be closer to your type than you realize. Maybe he actually shares your passion for hiking or weekend camping trips. Just because he looks a certain way or even presents himself a certain way on first meeting doesn't mean he's the type you think he is. That three-piece suit might just be part of his day job and not a good representation of his whole personality. Even though he's not your type, try digging deeper. People are complicated.

You need to expand your dating circle

Ruling out certain types of people based on the wrong reasons can really limit your options. Just because the first guy who broke your heart was a musician doesn’t mean every musician should be off your dating radar. Or if your family has always told you to date someone with an office job and you feel they're controlling and meddling, you may have decided long ago your type is anything but what they suggest. This type of thinking doesn't serve you well. You may bypass a potential match simply because he happens to be a type you previously ruled out.

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Comments on "Is it time to start dating against-type?"

kuu June 01, 2013 | 6:00 PM

it's like wife swap, but with dating men

Erica June 25, 2012 | 9:14 AM

My type changes all the time! There are certain traits that are non-negotiable that I look for in a guy, but generally I find something attractive in every guy I meet. My 'type' just depends on the day!

Britt May 22, 2012 | 8:16 PM

I never stick to a certain type, I think it is important to be an equal opportunity dater. You never know what you may be missing out on, or what else is out there if you don't give it a chance. I think so often we think that we know what we want, but you really never know exactly what you need until you are faced with it.

Emma May 22, 2012 | 8:04 PM

I think this rings very true as one grows and matures in their own life. We definitely wouldn't date the same person we did ten years ago, or shouldn't at least! As we grow and go through relationships we learn more about the type of person we need in a partner! I don't think it is wise to stay hooked on one "type."

Hannah May 22, 2012 | 10:28 AM

This article makes a lot of sense! I think we have an idea in our head of what type of person we want to be with, an easily miss out on opportunities for a connection with someone that doesn't look the part.

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