Couple arguing about stupid things

Sure, it's tempting to engage your significant other in a shouting match any time you or your personal space feel threatened. I mean, the least he can do is wipe the toothpaste off the sink, right? But is sweating the small stuff smart?

Don't even bother

Here are five idiotic things that couples have been known to fight over but really aren't worth rowing about in the long run. Take note so you can recognize when you need to take a deep breath... instead of blowing a gasket.

1

Socks

Wow, is he really leaving his boxers/PJs/jeans on the floor again? Don't fume. Kick his dirty socks under the bed (hey, you're not his maid), and try to forget about it — he likely didn't mean any disrespect. In a relationship, one person is always going to be the Oscar to the other person's Felix, so you might as well laugh about it.

Here's how to deal: Get one of those cool hampers with partitions that divide clothes by colors (relatively foolproof), and show him how it works. Then cross your fingers.

2

Maps

map

Trying to navigate a route together can seem harrowing at the time, but resist the urge to lash out. You'll eventually get there, wherever "there" is, as long as you obey the traffic laws.

Here's how to deal: Roll down the windows for some air and try being silent. Not crying, not hyperventilating... just breathing. Your calm countenance will inevitably influence his mood.

3

Exes

photos of ex

Unless his or your old flames are actively trying to contact you or woo one of you back, obsessing over beaus/girlfriends past isn't worth your breath. Avoid bringing them up, and you'll avoid pointless fights. After all, there's nothing he can do about his past — and neither can you.

Here's how to deal: Repeat this to yourself: He chose you. And thank the good Lord you aren't still with one of your exes — bullet dodged, yes?

4

Paint colors

Like Kevin Spacey said in American Beauty, things like couch cushions and wallpaper samples seem important, but "This isn't life! This is just stuff!" If your hubby is hell-bent on recovering the pool table in bright red felt or keeping his beloved moose head in your den, let him. At the end of the day, you can decorate around the offending item — an "urban woodsman" theme might actually be cool — or ignore it, but picking your battles means you'll both end up happy in one way or another.

Here's how to deal: For every object he picks, you get to choose something of a similar size — an armchair for a writing desk or a wall of paint for a carpet. You'll be making the decisions together, but you'll each get to put your own touches on the place.

5

Your television set

Fighting with your guy over the remote control is an old cliché, sure, but there are only so many episodes of Full Metal Jousting you can take. Take a time out and focus on how it feels to spend time together rather than focusing on the screen. That'll bring you back to what's truly important.

Here's how to deal: Invest in a DVR, and grin and bear it. If you're not an action movie fan, for example, try focusing on the hot (probably shirtless) young actors. Then introduce him to critically acclaimed TV shows that have a little something for everyone, like Mad Men, Breaking Bad, The Wire or Game of Thrones — all great for hunkering down and having a snuggle-tastic DVD marathon.

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Comments on "5 Stupidest things to fight over"

Erin August 14, 2012 | 9:46 AM

I like the part about paint colors and wallpaper being just STUFF!! It is! It really doesn't mean anything. My husband's so funny - he always gets upset that I don't ever care how we decorate or what not, but to me that just doesn't matter. Our home is happy because of the love that's in it, not because of the decor we chose.

Katie July 02, 2012 | 5:05 PM

I love the one about the television set. It's so funny cause I always let my husband choose what movie we're going to watch, because truth be told I just like cuddling with him. I can watch what I want to when he's not around...so I'd rather him be happy and me be able to cuddle! Plus, I'll admit I normally fall asleep in movies, which is why I couldn't care less what's actually on.

Rica May 23, 2012 | 12:30 PM

Agree with you, Emma! So hard to not bring it up, especially if they stayed friends after the relationship! Pesky exes! :( Sometimes i'm just tempted to tell my BF to just stop talking to them, but heck of course I can't. Who would want to be that jealous, insecure GF, right?! :(

Emma May 16, 2012 | 3:44 PM

It is so hard not to fight about exes! It is something that is so hard to get over. But it is so true, he chose you! And you both have a past. So really, there is no point in getting upset about his, especially if you expect him to not bring up yours either. Divulge all the necessary information and then move on and focus on the present.

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