Couple on winter walk

What women want

Some women want diamonds and jewels, but most want a few more intangible but important things from their men. After talking to a bunch of matched up friends, we narrowed down what we feel are the top five things wives want from their husbands. Read on to see where you stand – and if we missed anything you think should be added.

Quality time

It's not hard to see why this one made the top spot. And we're not just talking about time – we mean quality time. This means time when you and your partner are connected, sharing a laugh, engaged in each other's lives – not merely in the same room, staring at the television or other type of screen. So many couples today have so much going on in their lives (together and separately) that any time that can be spent reconnecting as a couple is eaten up by other things. But it's time to make an effort to eke out some alone time.

Real women speak: "If my husband watches one more sports game while I'm trying to talk to him, that's it," says one frustrated woman we talked to who has been married for five years.

Man cooking for wifeHelp around the house

Is it too much to ask that our guys help out around the house? We know a lot of men who are great at lending a hand and who go above and beyond the call of duty. But from what we heard from quite a few of the women we talked to, there are still more than a few less than helpful men out there.

Real women speak: "Just because I work at home doesn't mean I should be the sole cook, shopper and cleaner," says one 32-year-old work-at-home newlywed.


Whether they work at home or schlep out to an office, there's a lot to do to keep a household running and women want to feel appreciated. We don't blame them! From cleaning and shopping to child-rearing, cooking, decision-making and bringing home the bacon, many women do it all – and they would like to be recognized for their efforts.

Real women speak: "I know my husband appreciates what I do, but I would really love for him to show it more often," one 27-year-old mom of two tells us.


After a few years, affection can go out the window in many relationships. Hand holding, back rubs, random kisses and goodbye hugs might start off as daily occurrences but they often fall to the wayside, making many women pine for their return. We're not suggesting your guy needs to be at your beck and call, but regular displays of unsolicited affection go a long way in making a relationship work.

Real women speak: "My husband used to rub my back every night before bed and I loved it. It's been years since he's done that and it would be really nice once in a while," explains one woman we chatted with who has been married for 11 years.


We all want to feel understood and like the person we're closest to has our back. No one likes to feel isolated in what they're thinking or like no one gets where they're coming from. This is especially true with couples. The women we talked to really felt as if understanding (or at least an attempt to understand) on the part of their husband or boyfriend was important.

Real women speak: "He doesn't need to be on my side all the time, but it would be great if he took some time to see where I'm coming from more often," says one woman about her long-term boyfriend of five years.

More about love and marriage

How to get your relationship back on track
Are you relationship material? 3 Things he's looking for
Bring back the romance after having a baby


Recommended for you


Comments on "Top 5 things wives want from their husbands"

Paul M December 05, 2013 | 6:13 AM

It's funny to read these articles and then the very next article says that if you kiss your wife's butt and don't act like a cro-magnon that your wife will lose all respect for you as a man and end up cheating on you anyway with whatever "bad boy" happens to be next on the list. The truth? I don't think there is one single truth. Roll the dice and see what you get. If you don't like it, live with it or change it. It took me 20 years and 4 marriages to finally find the right combination. Problem is that you never truly know someone until you have lived with them for a while. And even then...people change.

Denise June 12, 2013 | 10:12 AM

I think the main thing is trust, If you don't have that, its not worth it.

Lisa October 30, 2012 | 10:33 AM

Quality time is a big one for me. I love having my husbands undivided attention. I also love if he gives me a back rub before bed and calls me through out the day!

Amber June 22, 2012 | 4:39 PM

I am one of the lucky ones - my husband is GREAT at the last four! He always lets me know that he appreciates me and he even prefers cuddling more than I do! Our biggest challenge is quality time, and of course that's what I like the most. We have a new baby and my husband works ridiculously long hours, so when we do see eachother it's definitely not "quality" since we're both so tired. We know it's temporary, though, and we do try to have a date night here and there.

Julie June 06, 2012 | 1:19 PM

This really hits the nail on the head; especially affection and understanding. Without it we might as well be single!!

+ Add Comment

(required - not published)